I suppose I should make a pinned post, huh?
Name: Lenore
Age: 26
Preferred Honorifics: Miss if we're unaquainted, Saint or Mommy if we are.
NSFW Info: I'm a fin/femdom and my list of kinks is as long as I am tall (and I'm 5'10 so it's a long ass list). Some of my absolute favorites include cucking, techdomming, feederism, forced intox, forced humiliation, degradation, praise, chastity and CBT. Absolute lover of training the wallet and soul simultaneously.
NSFW Background: I've been in the BDSM scene since 2018 and have been a domme since 2019. I have experience in online and IRL domination. I do not do cashmeets.
Limits: No underage, no scat, no vomit or snot, no spit unless it's mine, and no CEI.
SFW Info: I'm into reading, crochet, collecting vintage books and collecting tropical plants. I have a pet bird, love Indian and Mexican food and I'm most likely taller than you in my combat boots.
Very often kink can tell us about the inner workings of someone's psyche.
"I want to control everything" - I want to feel like my influence matters enough that I can decide for you and have everything be okay
"I want you to use me" - I want to feel physically close to someone without having to lead the interaction
"I want you to cater to my every whim" - I want someone to listen the first time I express a need
Etc.
One of the most interesting things about k!nk is how often “I want you to control me” actually means “I want to trust someone enough that I can stop controlling everything.”
Something I’ve noticed about the findom community on here is how offended some women get by the suggestion that a submissive’s experience actually matters.
I keep seeing “I don’t cater to male fantasies” and “I’m just here to be worshipped.”
But this is quite literally sex work. No matter how you dress it up, men are participating because they find these dynamics sexually gratifying. Even being financially exploited can be part of the fantasy.
Why does acknowledging that there’s another human being involved feel like such a threat to your authority?
You can be dominant, have boundaries and make the entire dynamic revolve around your desires without genuinely disregarding the person submitting to you.
I’ll call out shitty behavior from men and I’ll call it out from women too. That doesn’t make me a "pick me." I also don’t believe being a Domme makes anyone immune to criticism and I certainly don’t believe treating subs like human beings makes someone less dominant.
The fantasy is one thing. How you actually treat people is another.
As someone who got rocked 3 hrs straight THEY LOVE ASS AND TITS! they wanna GRAB onto everything about you and squeeze your body and watch the recoil of a spank. They wanna nurse on huge fat suffocating tits while you ride them. They loveeeeee chubby girls
“This economy sucks, I’m gonna open an OF and sell feet pics”
Hey so do you think now that we’re in a recession and the economy is ass that SWers are the ones benefiting? FUCK NO.
If you thought OF/Fansly was saturated, feet content is even MORE so.
I’m tired of hearing the ignorance spewing when people say the above thinking it’s quick/easy money.