@ddubemm We always forget one simple thing about life, everyone is attracted to success. No matter who, what or how you are, once you are at the pinnacle of what is sought after, you will gain traction
This is a superficial and ultimately destructive way of framing the problem.
Women deal with the profound biological burden of reproduction: menstruation, pregnancy, childbirth, and menopause. That is real, costly, and non-negotiable. No serious person denies it.
But the complementary burden that has fallen on men for the entire history of our species is equally non-negotiable and far more lethal.
Men have been the ones who die in war — by the tens of millions. Conscription, combat, and the obligation to stand between the tribe and existential threat have been almost exclusively male responsibilities.
Men occupy the overwhelming majority of the most dangerous occupations on the planet: commercial fishing, logging, mining, roofing, heavy construction, oil-rig work, long-haul trucking. The workplace fatality statistics are not subtle. Year after year, 90–95 % of occupational deaths are male.
Men also take more physical and psychological risks. That is why they invent more, explore more, and die younger — from accidents, from violence, from suicide. The male suicide rate is not a minor footnote; it is a catastrophic and chronic reality.
These are not interchangeable complaints. They are complementary sacrifices. One sex carries the primary cost of creating new life. The other sex carries the primary cost of protecting that life and extracting the resources necessary to sustain it from a dangerous and indifferent world.
To reduce the entire male side of this ancient division of labour to “what do men deal with?” as if the answer were “nothing of consequence” is not compassion. It is a deliberate refusal to look at the hierarchical and sacrificial structure of reality itself.
The proper response is not grievance. It is gratitude for the complementary burdens that have kept the species alive, and the individual responsibility to carry one’s own share of them without self-pity.
Feminism did NOT liberate women.
What liberated women was TECHNOLOGY and BIRTH CONTROL.
Washing machine liberated you more than feminism ever did.
Our mothers spent 15 hours a week washing clothes with their hands.
Washing machine came and freed her.
Fridge freed her. She no longer had to go to market every day.
Gas cooker freed her. No more 3 hours blowing firewood smoke into her eyes.
Electricity freed her.
And BIRTH CONTROL freed her. She could finally choose when to have children, how many to have.
Not feminism. TECHNOLOGY.
Feminism just CAME and took the credit.
Feminism told you "we fought for you so you can work." LIE.
Capitalists wanted you to work. They needed double workers to double their profits.
They needed to crash wages. What better way than to bring all women into the workforce at once?
Before, one man's salary could buy a house and feed a family of 5.
Now, husband and wife both work and they still cannot afford rent. Who won? Not you. The capitalist.
Feminism also told you casual sex is empowerment.
Who benefits from free sex? Is it you that is crying after being used and dumped? Or is it the man who got sex without paying bride price, without commitment, without responsibility?
The orgasm gap will tell you. In casual sex, men cum 90% of the time, women 30%. So who is empowered?
Feminism didn't liberate the average woman. It liberated the rich man.
He got your cheap labor in the office and your free sex in the bedroom.
And you are on Instagram calling it freedom.
Feminism did NOT liberate women.
What liberated women was TECHNOLOGY and BIRTH CONTROL.
Washing machine liberated you more than feminism ever did.
Our mothers spent 15 hours a week washing clothes with their hands.
Washing machine came and freed her.
Fridge freed her. She no longer had to go to market every day.
Gas cooker freed her. No more 3 hours blowing firewood smoke into her eyes.
Electricity freed her.
And BIRTH CONTROL freed her. She could finally choose when to have children, how many to have.
Not feminism. TECHNOLOGY.
Feminism just CAME and took the credit.
Feminism told you "we fought for you so you can work." LIE.
Capitalists wanted you to work. They needed double workers to double their profits.
They needed to crash wages. What better way than to bring all women into the workforce at once?
Before, one man's salary could buy a house and feed a family of 5.
Now, husband and wife both work and they still cannot afford rent. Who won? Not you. The capitalist.
Feminism also told you casual sex is empowerment.
Who benefits from free sex? Is it you that is crying after being used and dumped? Or is it the man who got sex without paying bride price, without commitment, without responsibility?
The orgasm gap will tell you. In casual sex, men cum 90% of the time, women 30%. So who is empowered?
Feminism didn't liberate the average woman. It liberated the rich man.
He got your cheap labor in the office and your free sex in the bedroom.
And you are on Instagram calling it freedom.
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The best way to answer ‘Tell me about Yourself’ in an Interview👇
First, think of the word SEAT cos you’ll be SAT 😀
S — Skills & Qualities:
My Name is Seyifunmi Oderinde, having reviewed the job description meticulously, I have identified that my strong business acumen, digital proficiency, people advocacy and ability to utilize data driven insights to drive informed business decisions, are essential to your ‘people operations’ role.
E — Experience & Educational Qualifications:
I am a double certified HR professional with a degree in XYZ and extensive experience spanning technology, healthcare, consulting & financial services. I excel in Talent acquisition, Performance Management, Compensation & Benefits administration, HR metrics & Analytics, Employee relations, Learning & Development and possess a good knowledge of the National Labor Legislations.
A — Accomplishment:
Over the course of my career, I have led strategic initiatives resulting in over 70% reduction in employee turnover and optimized employee development programs to drive performance. Additionally, I have spearheaded key policy developments and implementation, as well operational efficiency through workplace digitalization among other achievements.
T — Type of Person:
I pride myself as an excellent communicator with great leadership, interpersonal, conflict resolution, and negotiation skills. I am known for my frugality, discipline and proactive mindset, always taking initiatives in ensuring overall business success. I strongly believe that my expertise and attributes position me as a valuable asset to your team.
This framework helps in organizing your answers, mitigating memory lapses, and preventing excessive rambling.
You can type out and practice your response to cement the information, also tailor to fit a 1-2 minutes speech.
Make sure to follow the S.E.A.T approach in your next interview and share feedback on the outcome.
Good luck 😎💪
I killed a cricket this evening. The good old-fashioned way too: a light stomp and a gentle crush beneath my foot. Afterwards, I reclined in my chair and went back to staring at the sky. Lost in a daydream, I suddenly felt a sharp sting on my leg. I looked down just in time to see an ant scurrying away. Then I noticed them: a small army of ants carrying away the cricket’s carcass as though they had stumbled upon a feast prepared just for them.
I leaned back again and, for reasons I still cannot fully explain, I thought of every time I had gone out to earn a living only to return empty-handed, every rejection email, every promise that dissolved into nothing, every loss that had accumulated over the years. Then I looked at those ants and saw how effortlessly fortune had smiled on them, and I could not reconcile it. So I crushed every single one of them.
I spared the one that stung me, though. I wanted it to witness what it felt like to lose every member of its family. After I post this, I will decide whether to grant it the mercy of living or send it to join the rest.