Marriage is not a treatment plan for lust.
Why are people asking, “What happens when your wife is on her period?” as though marriage exists primarily to satisfy sexual desires.
Self control is a fruit you cultivate before marriage, not a gift marriage automatically gives you.
The same parents who travel long distances to help/ grieve/ celebrate their friends?
The ones greeting almost everyone from church to the market? They model alot about community and friendship. Alot of us think we're too good for mundane things.
Let's be serious please.
The person who said “absence makes the heart grow fonder” was definitely on some BS. If you like absent, na you sabi. My own heart grows fonder when we’re in close proximity.
I think our elders didn’t do a good job at modeling how friendship changes from adolescence/young adulthood to 30s and beyond. A lot of us think friendships are supposed to look & feel like they did when we were in high-school & college. & thats just not realistic.
i like withdrawing access a lot. i won’t do gra gra with you, once you start acting like a mad person i’ll leave you and make sure you can’t access me ever again. no long talk
I totally agree with you.
If we can’t work through issues and emotionally reassure each other during disagreements, the relationship will slowly fall apart bug when conflict is handled well, it actually brings you closer, builds trust, and creates that deep sense of safety with your partner.
You know what’s attractive? Someone who notices when your mind is spiraling and reassures you with kindness, never making you feel like you’re too much for needing it.
I think the problem is many of you are scared of being alone.
Firstly admit that you can end up alone, once you have made good terms with it then, you can be voluntarily single untill you find someone ready to give 100% like you.
That fear you have, find a way to strangle it.
When you in a serious relationship, you’re suppose to move differently. Yeah you grown you can do whatever you want, but certain things are out of respect you have for your partner! It’s not about being controlled or about your partner being insecure it’s a respect thing.