Jordan Smith

Age 32

[𝓓𝓮𝓵 @delonperc]

Complex PTSD can make ordinary kindness feel unusually emotional. A patient response. A gentle correction. Someone staying calm when you make a mistake. Moments that seem small to others can feel overwhelming. Not because they are extraordinary, but because they reveal how little was needed all along.

[Shadows of Control @shadows_control]

Realising you are being abused is rarely a single moment of clarity. More often, it is a slow and painful awakening, one that can take years or even decades.

Abuse distorts reality so effectively that you spend long periods believing the problem is you: your reactions, your sensitivity, your childhood wounds, your inability to “cope better.”

Gaslighting and manipulation work quietly, convincing you that the fear in your body is an overreaction and that the confusion in your mind is your own fault.

It’s quite an earth-shattering moment when you finally see the truth and realise the problem was never you.

#Gaslighting #DomesticAbuseAwareness

[The Weaver of Woe™ @weaverofwoe]

There is a pattern between the person who uses humor to deflect difficult emotion and the person who experiences humor during serious moments as dismissal.

The deflecting person is not avoiding the emotion because they do not feel it. They often feel it intensely. Humor is the mechanism through which they process it: the slight distance that makes the full weight of the feeling survivable rather than overwhelming. The joke is not indifference. It is the coping instrument of a person who learned that full direct engagement with difficult feeling was not safe or not manageable.

The directness person experiences humor at those moments as a refusal to be present in what is actually happening. To them the joke signals that the other person is not taking the situation as seriously as it deserves. The humor breaks the atmosphere the serious conversation requires. They feel dismissed even though dismissal is not what is being communicated.

Both people are in the same difficult moment responding to it with the tools they have. The tools are incompatible and neither person has explained to the other what their tool is actually for.

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

"Some people survive and talk about it. Some people survive and go silent. Some people survive and create. Everyone deals with unimaginable pain in their own way, and everyone is entitled to that, without judgement.

So the next time you look at someone's life covetously, remember... You may not want to endure what they are enduring right now, at this moment, whilst they sit so quietly before you, looking like a calm ocean on a sunny day."

- Nikita Gill

[Unfiltered @quotesdaily100]

THINGS SILENCE TEACHES YOU DIFFERENTLY:

After loss: What really mattered and what never did

After conflict: What you said and what you wish you had not

After success: Whether you actually wanted what you chased

After meditation: How loud your own mind actually is

After nature: How small your problems genuinely are

After a long hug: That some things need no words at all

After everything: That stillness was always the answer

After betrayal: Who you truly are when nobody is watching

After solitude: That your own company is worth learning to enjoy

[Living with Trauma & Dissociation @RhiaCrewe]

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[Echo 🔆 @TheEcho13]

Men are terrified of women aging because aging moves women further away from male approval and closer to themselves.

The 19 year old asks if she is pretty enough to be chosen. The 27 year old asks if she’s respected, free, well-loved, and living in peace.

That is why culture sells panic at every birthday.

A woman who stops pandering to male approval is much harder to control.

[stressed @onlystresstoday]

Everybody talks about cutting people off but nobody really talks about the grief that comes with having to stand firm on that decision knowing it’s not what you wanted but what was necessary for your well-being

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

Most Suicide is Not Selfish. Full stop.

Most people don’t want to leave and hurt people. They want to end the pain. They don’t think they matter to those they’re leaving behind not do they think that they’ll he mourned.

If we want to prevent suicide, we need a new narrative around it, including ways to help mitigate people’s pain well before a crisis is imminent. XO, Dr. Jen

https://t.co/cdyYF2Tx2h

[윤슬 𖹭 @okaynups]

i like the concept of soulmates—not a “you’re destined to meet me, and love me” kind of soulmate, but a “i’d pick you, every time.” kind of soulmate. a “no matter what happens, and what has happened, i want to go through it with you.” kind of soulmate. a “i love you by choice, and you’re a blessing, and i’m going to continue thinking about you this way not because i have to but because i want to.” kind of soulmate. a “you help me rest easy when everything is difficult” kind of soulmate. a “in every possible outcome, i want you there, to share it with me.” kind of soulmate.

[blue @bluewmist]

today my dad told me "just because someone is mad does not give them the excuse to make you feel unloved or unworthy" and it hit me

[blue @bluewmist]

btw in your 20's and 30's you'll start rediscovering the niche interests and hobbies you had as a kid. it's very important you revisit them. your younger self was actually on to something.

[blue @bluewmist]

normalize not being offended if someone tells you "no" or "because I don't want to" they aren't being rude...they're being real. respect that.

[blue @bluewmist]

Personally, I think we should be okay with having a great conversation with a stranger and leaving it at that; exchanging contacts isn't exactly necessary. It's one of the beautiful things of life to remember a good conversation with a random person and move on.

[blue @bluewmist]

Unpopular opinion: I don't think your life has to have a purpose, or you a grand ambition; I think it's okay to just wander through life finding interesting things until you die

[blue @bluewmist]

I fell in love with this realization:

The people meant for you will not punish you for being human. They will not require perfect timing, perfect words, or a flawless version of your personality. They will know how to hold a pause without turning it into a threat.
They will know that being real matters more than being polished.

[blue @bluewmist]

There is a very specific female fatigue that comes from knowing exactly what is happening, explaining exactly what is happening, being told you are overreacting, and then watching exactly what is happening happen with excellent punctuality.

[Dylan O'Sullivan @DylanoA4]

How does C. S. Lewis do that, every paragraph is a book