I remember when i used to stay up late just talk to this girl, even when i had to wake up early the next morning, now we barely speak, and when we do it feel like I'm bothering her. the crazy part is she probably doesn't even notice how much things changed because she already used to life without me. I'm still trying to understand how somebody can go from being your favorite person to somebody you don't even know how to talk to anymore. have you ever watched a relationship die while you were still trying to save it?
My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your dad, I’m your partner. You’re free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what we’ve built, that’s on you.”
He said, “I’ll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after I’ve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.”
And honestly, that’s what accountability in a relationship sounds like.