I stopped arguing with people and everything got easier
It happened because I calculated what arguments cost me, not because I don't have opinions.
Every argument offers two prizes: being right and being effective, but you rarely take both home.
So I decided to change this. I ask one honest question before I push back. I state my position once, with my reasons. And when facts won't change the outcome, I let the outcome do the teaching.
People mistake this for weakness. It takes more discipline to hold a position quietly than to defend it at all costs.
The thing is that 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗴𝘂𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗲𝗴𝗼, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘀, and you cannot beat another person's ego. They need to overcome it by themselves.
Some hills are worth dying on, but almost none are worth daily combat.
The energy I used to spend on winning debates now goes into work nobody can argue with.
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