Beautiful explanation!!! I am a Professional but I findom is one of my Kinks. As always Will thank you for opening your platform to discuss the "hard" questions.
No.
I think people sometimes struggle to differentiate between paying for a professional service and findom, especially in kink spaces.
There’s this underlying idea that all kink should be done for free, which is really just a cousin of “I should be allowed free access to your time/body.”
Findom uses money itself as part of the kink, control, humiliation, or power exchange.
What I charge covers the actual work involved time in sessions, planning and designing sessions beforehand, negotiation meetings, paperwork, equipment, maintaining the space, insurance, aftercare, ongoing check-ins, emotional labour, and the professional structure required to do this safely and ethically.
Paying a professional for their time and expertise is not automatically findom.
Otherwise therapists, personal trainers, and tattoo artists would all accidentally be running kink economies.
Honestly, the subs who show up every single morning regardless of the vibe are the ones who stay for years. They aren't chasing a frantic hormonal high; they genuinely just adore your existence.
I have a genuinely ridiculous question for all the REAL Dominants out there.
Since when did SSC get “retired”… and in what universe is SSC suddenly “homophobic”? 🤣
The community really does wake up and invent new nonsense every morning.
Every conversation pulls you deeper...
Every thought of me tightens the ropes...
The rabbit hole was never the trap, it was thinking you could climb out.
Than all of a sudden by the time you realized how far you’ve fallen, you’ll already know exactly who you belong to. 😈😘
Some people talk about control.
I don’t repeat myself.
He responds, he waits, he adjusts, without needing to be told twice. That’s not confusion. That’s training.
Step closer… but only if you understand who sets the rules here.
@TheBurrowKing Its on Reddit and they have started to gain traction. I feel like a new wave of idiots are going to start joining the community.
Appearantly 🤣 oh and they despise men with a passion but accept male subs. Which i truly feel bad for the mental status of their subs.
@MissAndieRaye For me too 🤣 I didnt know keeping someone in a healthy sane state if mind to be able to make clear Consensual decisions without influence is something that is retired or homophobic. Especially being Bisexual myself 🤣🤣
You didn't send on her bad days, or her best days.
You skipped every holiday send.
You only come around when you're desperate..
You didn't appreciate the space she curated where you were nothing and her greatest play thing at the same time.
Stop asking why she stopped caring lol.
@WillHartley1980 I do however seperate my professional life from my personal life. I believe it is extremely healthy to do so, we also need breaks to lower the risk of dom drops.
@WillHartley1980 Couldn't agree more. I am a Professional Dom i went through proper training to gain the knowledge i have now.That doesnt mean I dont see all my subs as a connection to build upon, gain trust and have boundaries. I dont view any of my subs as 💲since I absolutely love what I do.