And since to no avail, I found no cause to my profound sense of incompatibility in relation to all around me, I find dignity in embracing my unique in full force.
Many in the replies think this test is easy because it's subjective. But this makes no sense. Subjectivity and objectivity lie on a different dimension than difficulty.
Something can be subjective and difficult, subjective and easy, objective and easy, or objective and difficult.
The All Souls examination is subjective and difficult, which might be the hardest of all those combinations.
There's an inverse correlation between how easy you think this test is, and how well you would actually do. I'm sure it's by design that those people who think it's easy are the exact type of people this test is meant to weed out.
I want people to actually read this entire exchange because it perfectly illustrates something much bigger than dating.
Her argument is, “If men are listening to women, why aren’t they using that info to become the men women want?”
I explained that a man can listen, understand perfectly, and use that information to become more selective, pursue less, establish different boundaries or simply decide he disagrees.
Watch how the standard moves throughout the conversation, Listen -> understand -> apply -> apply it in a way that benefits women.
If he hears her, understands her argument, processes the information and reaches a different conclusion, his understanding is treated as defective.
This is why so many conversations between men and women go nowhere. “You don’t understand me” often times really means “you understood me, but you didn’t arrive at the conclusion I wanted.”
And this is exactly why my original point matters, men are listening.
Social media has given men unprecedented access to women openly discussing everything pertaining to dating, sex & relationships.
The mistake is assuming that greater understanding of women would automatically make men more accommodating toward women.
Sometimes information creates empathy and sometimes it makes you more cautious, less idealistic, more selective and changes who you’re willing to pursue altogether.
You cannot demand that men listen to women and then invalidate what they learned because you don’t like what they did with the information.
Ironically, the reaction to men changing their behavior may be the strongest evidence that men were listening all along.
I want to be so in love that I stop counting the ways it could hurt, and simply surrender to the feeling. So in love that their name feels like a prayer on my lips, their presence feels like home, and the world could fall silent around me, yet I’d still hear my heart choosing them.
Wole Soyinka wrote an open letter today, with tens of em dashes.
Because Baba knows that dem no born you well to use the word ‘AI’ in the same sentence as his name.
You gotta maintain a lightness to your heart because turning into a bitter loser obsessed with how people have done you wrong is the most off-putting and unrewarding way a person can choose to be
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“You have not met all the people who would love you”
Beautiful, yet selfish quote many people love to hear and ‘manifest’. A huge number of the same people won’t like to hear they they haven’t loved all the people they’ve met or aren’t preparing to love the people they will meet
Who remembered when Buhari was on his regular medical leave outside the country and Osinbajo took over for like a month and there was illumination in the country?
Stop asking what another person woud do differently if they were president. It makes you look foolish.