Anna Maria Jorgensen

Love is the answer! 🤍 But sometimes I slip up and use sarcasm 👀 #mostlyunfiltered #notPC #workinprogress

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

Reality Land: Love is for the brave. Even the most ideal relationship ends in heartbreak at the end. What is love? Wanting to outlive your partner so they don’t have to suffer your loss. Love is the greatest reward, and the greatest risk. 🤍

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@hubermanlab @Stanford Specifically, if I’m not incorrect, men take more dangerous risks than women. If a father isn’t present to encourage healthy risk-taking, will the teen become fearful of risk, or more inclined to unhealthy risk?

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@hubermanlab @Stanford The effects of fatherless homes (vs step-dads/limited or no dad present).

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

Not very active on X, but for those who give a care, it’s that time of year again for a social media break. Aside from YouTube, of course. 👀 Happy New Year, I hope 2024 is good to you! xo

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@hubermanlab Can't believe Conti didn't make the top 10!

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@ClaudioVirili 🫂

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

Me: non-essential fear, filtering myself, feeling inferior (because I don’t have a formal education). Your turn, what’s your fuck it for 2024?

[Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. @hubermanlab]

If you had to pick only 1 non-negotiable (once you decide) “No more ______ for me once in 2024”, what is that thing, behavior, thought etc. ?

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@ClaudioVirili Thank you for that, and good one, and remember: sometimes, helping is enabling not really helping.

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@hubermanlab What’s yours?

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Session 4: ✔️This exercise was helpful @hubermanlab thank you for the inspiration. God bless and Merry Christmas🙏🤍

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

This is likely why writing a memoir is cathartic. Even if it’s only for you or loved ones. Ugh, now for everything that came after that. Feels daunting. 1st time: facts; 2nd: feelings; 3rd: associations; 4th: all(?) Let’s do this. 🤍

[Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. @hubermanlab]

Pennebaker writing protocol: 1 day per week for 15min, for 4 weeks TOTAL. You write about the same super challenging life event each time. 200+ peer reviewed studies report the positive & persistent mental & physical shifts the protocols induces. Zero cost except time: 1hr total.

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

Session 3: ✔️ Loss of a family member. Association: love leads to devestation. Shit.

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@ClaudioVirili I think when they’re genuinely helping someone without telling anyone or because of selfish feelings (like guilt). Even better if that someone doesn’t know. So sharing love from a place of philanthropic purity. What’s your best guess?

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

Hurt people hurt people. Love is the answer❣️

[Lex Fridman @lexfridman]

It seems that people are often not the best version of themselves online.

So I take the low-effort mockery & derision with a grain of salt. I try to not participate in it & try to think positively of everyone involved.

Love you all ❤

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

Truth

[Chris Williamson @ChrisWillx]

I got in trouble last week for saying that women’s disapproval of sex work was their intrasexual competition at play, trying to control the sexuality of other women.

I think it’s a very fair comment to say that women will likely be more attuned to the suffering of women working in prostitution than men are.

And also that women have no incentive to permit it to continue, so their disapproval may be heavily due to their desire to protect these women, whereas men wouldn’t have this impetus.

To state the obvious - women absolutely can be moral, caring and empathetic so that other females don’t suffer, make errors in life, get hurt by dating mistakes and much more.

But it’s probably wrong to say that this exclusively comes from a place of ethically-balanced, unselfish moral virtue.

As a society, we have no issue in pointing out men’s selfishness and many shortcomings.

It’s unlikely that women, who are also human beings, have only saintly motives.

Here are some examples…

Studies show that women are more likely to express aggression toward women who are dressed more promiscuously, showing more skin.

This effect is increased in the presence of men, and reduced when it’s only women around.

Studies show that women prefer to take appearance-related advice from gay men rather than their female friends.

This is because women believe gay men are more likely to be honest, whereas female peers might give less than honest advice to reduce competition.

Most slut shaming comes from women, not men.

Why?

“If one woman offers blowjobs on the second date, it's harder for other women to keep them in reserve until the fourth date as their special treat.

This creates a downward spiral of young women feeling like they have to offer more and more sex to more and more guys just to stay in the mating game.

Thus, slut-shaming is a way of enforcing a more restrained sexual norm on other women so that not all women have to become more promiscuous than any of them would like.” — Geoffrey Miller & Tucker Max

Think about it - if men had the opportunity to make all women on the planet more horny, do you really believe they’d say no?

It’s women who lose out when the price of sex drops, thus they are the enforcers of that price.

Interestingly, the claim of "gold digger" can be seen as a different kind of slut shaming.

Aka.. "protect yourself from this woman, men, she's only giving you sex disingenuously to get at your money".

Calling someone a slut is a sexual infidelity prewarning.

Calling someone a gold digger is an emotional and resource infidelity prewarning.

What about abortion?

Polls consistently show that women are more likely than men to support a reduction on the abortion limit.

28% of men supported a reduction vs 46% of women. (YouGov 2011)

24% of men vs 49% of women. (YouGov 2012)

35% of men vs 59% of women. (Angus Reid)

“If it were left to women to vote on the issue, with men out of the picture, there’s a good chance that the result would be in favour of restricting abortion.

On the flip side, if only men voted, they’d almost certainly vote in favour of women’s reproductive rights.” — The Guardian

Why?

Women who are pro-life can control the reproductive strategies of other women by taking them off the dating market.

A woman who can have more consequence-free sex is a bigger competitor for mates (even to married and committed women) than one who faces a greater risk of getting pregnant.

This isn’t to say that arguments for being pro-life don’t come from religious or moral grounds too, but the intrasexual competition is an obvious contributor.

Age Gap Dating Shaming is another timely example.

Leonardo DiCaprio went viral again for his new girlfriend being 25 years old.

You’ll notice that almost all age-gap dating shaming came from women, not from men.

Why?

Protecting young women from a predatory older man?

Perhaps.

But also our old friend, female intrasexual competition.

Even though Leo is taking away viable female’s fertile years from other potential male partners, it’s women who have the biggest problem with the age gap, precisely because a young women who can capture an older high status man is a bigger threat to women than she is to men.

By shaming women into dating within their own age bracket, the dating pool of older, high status men is opened up more and competition is lowered for other women.

In short - women are great. Huge fan of them. But they can be perversely motivated, petty, vicious and conniving in ways that they are unaware of, and pretending that their behaviour is ubiquitously morally motivated is both false and not useful.

The argument that women only tell other women to wear long dresses, leave sex work, support pro-life positions and not have casual sex is exclusively motivated by protection implies that women don't ever compete with other women.

If you think that women don't ever compete with each other and only do these things from a place of helping other women, then you also think that it’s ONLY men who compete with the same sex.

That implies that women are passive creatures who just let mating happen to them, without competing with other women for access to the best mates.

That’s a superbly patronising view of women, which disempowers them as agents of their own destiny.

A better view is that, like men, women stand to gain from competing with the same sex for mates.

And that they are capable of doing it.

And that sometimes competition involves not just being "the best" but also tearing others down or interfering with their mating prospects.

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@datepsych Any links to what causes or contributes to SS behaviours? (Nature? Nurture? Both?) Slightly higher in females…does that correlate to fatherless homes or (dare I say) modern feminism? Or?

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@lexfridman This too shall pass. 🤍 ((warm hug))

[Anna Maria Jorgensen @WingmamTV]

@FunRunning4 Maybe start with something less daunting. Something you can get through. Build up to the biggies. (P.S. I love your cat 🖤)