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less cars good

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@simonsarris I’ve seen sweet interactions of kids getting to know each other ended bc I guess the parents didn’t know how they fit in?

It’s nuts!

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@NatureGirl_21 Look into let play and support independence where you can

Every step away from anxiety and fear is radical

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@knittermom Carrier

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@sloeginpsyop They are some times posted as blue/pink kettle bells on FB marketplace, or alluded to as milking systems in groups, but honestly I’ve listed them as pumps as well and had no issue; the flagging seems all over the place tbh

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@sloeginpsyop I think just find other people?? The breast pump resale / give away market is alive and well in Camberville, MA

[Jarrett Walker @humantransit]

This appears to be about transit reliability, but it’s actually also about frequency. If the bus came every 10 minutes and they were all 20 minutes late, you’d never notice. Frequency is a backstop for reliability. It’s also the essence of connectivity.

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@MariaEyre1873 But also parents are 1.5 hours away — that’s not insanely far for a special event

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@MCMCD_ There’s no baby wearing group around you? And/or try a bunch of stuff used

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@cybelethebest You should just do it

It will be ok, and then you can be pissed at real people instead of the maybes

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@selentelechia @CartoonsHateHer Oh really ? I like spirited and spicy! Much better than defiant. I am collecting more-lmk if you find them!

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@CartoonsHateHer From what I’ve seen the advice is more or less the same: seek connection, keep your shit together even when they lose theirs, don’t try to argue them into your POV (big one for me—I was sure we’d find a compromise)—and finally accept, you can’t ctrl their happiness

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@CartoonsHateHer Mom to spirited/defiant/orchid/spicy one here. (Various titles I’ve found!)

There are some new resources coming out. « Parenting a spicy one » book is pretty good and Dr Becky has a program as well (forget what she was calling it)

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@clairevo We have a tiny 2 bdrm with 2 kids, 90% of the time we are all in the same room, this includes the bathroom. It’s not on purpose, i swear, it’s just how it somehow ends up

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@mattyglesias What has she actually done? (Lib voter, somerville)

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@380kmh Are there any plans to revisit SL? Or just too prohibitive?

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@hollowearthterf People in Boston slathering it on a rare sunny day in like March!

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@s8mb Hmm tell us more—I can’t find any mention of this?

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@utotranslucence It’s a little unfair bc I have a really defiant/tricky child for who this is just resoundingly clear—like you give her ice cream, she’s still pissed off.

But it is, of course, the truth for every child and human.

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@utotranslucence love this Q bc it’s the crux of it. Not just in parenting, but in anything tough?

The only thing that helped me was fully, totally realizing: I cannot control my child’s happiness, I can only control my parenting.

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@utotranslucence It’s interesting because as time passes and you get more practice, the child also gets older… and so things get easier