My biggest red flag is that I stay quiet when I should speak. I don't always know how to communicate my feelings, how to take them out of my heart and place them into words someone else can understand. I rehearse replies in my head a hundred times and still end up staying silent. It's not that I don't care. It's not that I'm cold or distant. It's not attitude. Sometimes I just don't know how to turn emotions into words. I struggle to say โthis bothered meโ. I struggle to explain what I'm feeling without overthinking it. Most of the time, I stay quiet because I'm scared of being misunderstood or feeling like I'm too much. But my silence doesn't mean I'm heartless, uninterested or emotionless.
Accountability is so sexy.
Admitting you're wrong and owning up to your mistakes as an adult is a trait of aging like fine wine. I can never tolerate any form of stress, manipulation and gaslighting at this age.
You can't build an honest relationship with people who lie to themselves. You can't reach people who only see the version of you in their minds. You can't communicate with people who are always trying to one-up you. Distance yourself from such dynamics and prioritize reciprocity.
being a babyfaced old soul is great because people are constantly confused by your age. am i 18?? am i 24?? am i 35?? am i an 800 year old swamp witch that stays youthful by eating the hearts of men? honestly anything is possible
Iโm so tired of people giving me the bare minimum like Iโm supposed to be grateful for crumbs ๐ cause one thing about meโฆ when I love people, support people, care about people, I SHOW UP. I answer the phone. I make time. I help when I can. I check in. I go hard for the people I care about. So when it come to me and suddenly folks โtoo busy,โ โforgetful,โ inconsistent, or moving weird?? Yeah that sht feel like a slap in the face fr. Cause how you comfortable receiving so much from me but barely pouring anything back into me?
Even though people have done me wrong, my heart still carries love. I refuse to let betrayal turn me cold, bitter, or hard to connect with. Some people changed my boundaries, but they never changed the softness, compassion, and love I naturally carry.โจ
Thinking someone doesnโt love you or isnโt interested in you solely because they arenโt immediately or constantly physical in a sexual way with you is a sure sign of some issues
Intimacy isn't just about sex. It's having heart-to-hearts, going on dates, dancing, cuddIing, sharing chiIdhood memories, thoughts, fears, dreams & hopes for the future. It's uncontrollable laughter, direct eye contact & feeling each other without touchingโit's exchanging energy