once u stop fantasizing about an ideal version of urself and start working towards it by setting ur alarm clock earlier, working out, reading, and stop procrastinating u'll realize that it was so easy all along. ur ideal self will only exist in ur mind until u make the decision.
See yourself as luxury. See yourself as iconic. Know that you are the blueprint. Remind yourself that you are worthy, valuable, powerful, exceptional, limitless, and irreplaceable. Carry yourself with confidence, embrace your greatness, and never settle for less than you deserve.
Just saw a video that neurodivergent people do math in head different than neurotypical people. Now I am curious, how will you calculate in your head 238 + 421?
your routine is quietly deciding the kind of person you’re becoming. not your goals. not your plans. not the things you tell people you’re going to do. your actual daily habits. you can talk about wanting to be successful all day but if you spend your mornings hitting snooze, your afternoons procrastinating and your nights scrolling until 3 AM, you’re reinforcing a completely different identity. and that’s the part people don’t want to confront.
you become comfortable with whatever you repeatedly allow yourself to do. every time you keep a promise to yourself, you build self-respect. every time you break one, you make it easier to break the next. your routine isn’t just something you follow to get things done. it’s the environment in which your personality, discipline, confidence and standards are being shaped.
so if you want to change your life, stop obsessing over the person you want to become and start looking at the things you do every single day. because eventually, your life will look a lot like your routine.
Btw, a healed nervous system makes you magnetic. Science backs it. When your body finally shifts out of survival mode, cortisol drops, vagal tone rises, and your entire biochemistry moves into what researchers call the social engagement state. That’s the state where your presence feels calm, open, grounded, confident… and naturally attractive.. 1//5
So i have been rereading The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho and i wont stop thinfking about this part “And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
Acquiring knowledge, really.
The more knowledge you have in an area, the more confident you are in articulating your perspective.
Having a significant knowledge advantage allows you to speak with a level of conviction and authority that naturally comes across as assertiveness
Major cheat code for life: realizing you can just decide you're "a runner" or "an early riser" or "a writer" or whatever. Start doing the thing, and you become the thing.
The most painful part of my life was watching my son’s mother and my grandmother slowly lose their respect for me because I couldn’t provide. I was still trying my best but people can be understanding for so long. And I was drinking and gambling. I was losing my self respect in the process.
On days where I’d light-up with hope and energy, it seemed more like I was just trying to beg for an extension of grace. Like I was convincing myself while lying to them. Lack of movement and lack of money turned me into an animal. An internally frustrated animal that seemed somewhat emotionless on the surface.
I will never look down on anyone who’s going through that period of their life. I know it sounds like cope to say, this too shall pass but it does. Depending on your choices. Just fight as hard as you can to not lose yourself on the process.
The most isolating phase of growth is when you no longer fit in with the circle that accepts mediocrity, but you haven't yet earned a seat at the table with the people you aspire to become. Don't quit just to cure loneliness. Solitude is the tax you pay to upgrade your life.
Observe yourself. Your patterns of thought. Behavior. Habits. Compulsions. Anxieties. Insecurities. Addictions. These limiting patterns are very things standing between you and the life you actually want to live. Sit with them. Once you face them, the unconscious becomes conscious. You become aware. And when you finally understand what they are and how they control you, you awaken. You become... unstoppable.
i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and almost always from:
-getting humiliated
-showing up terrified and doing it anyway
-admitting you might be the problem
Been going deep into cyber security lately..
it's a lot hey! Found this website that basically teaches you everything, I'm sure that Stellies student learned from there🔥🔥🔥
When you’re certain you’ll win, you give it your all, but the moment you doubt it, you hold yourself back, too afraid to risk it all, because the less convinced you are, the less you’ll put on the line for the prize