A lot of men are like this because they were ugly as kids and grew up as social outcasts. Even after self improvement they’re too socially maladjusted to talk to girls because of their school days. This doesn’t mean the man is abusive. Abusive men get girlfriends rather easily.
6/10 women at 19 years old are getting DMs from professional athletes and being flown out to mansions by millionaires.
6/10 men at 19 years old are virgins trying to pass their freshmen classes or get hired at the local dollar store.
This is where we’re at.