I regret having premarital sex.
For many years, I didn’t think I would ever say those words. When I was younger, it didn’t look like something to regret. In fact, in the environment I grew up in, it almost felt like something to celebrate. Among my friends, experiences with women were treated like achievements. People compared stories, laughed about them, and sometimes even competed over them as if they were collecting trophies.
At that time, nobody talked about consequences. Nobody talked about the emotional weight those experiences could carry into the future. Nobody talked about what would happen when you eventually met the woman you truly loved.
Then I got married.
And that was when I began to understand something I wish someone had explained to me earlier.
You see, when you share that level of intimacy with multiple people before marriage, your mind sometimes carries memories you cannot easily erase. Moments that seemed harmless at the time suddenly become mental comparisons that you never asked for and never wanted.
There were times when I found myself battling thoughts I hated. Not because I didn’t love my wife—far from it. I loved her deeply. But I realized something painful: my past had introduced unnecessary struggles into something that was meant to be pure and peaceful.
My wife deserved better than that.
She deserved to be the only story in that area of my life. She deserved a man who was discovering everything about intimacy, connection, and vulnerability with her alone. Instead, I had to fight through memories that should never have existed in the first place.
And that is where the regret comes from.
Not because pleasure existed in the past, but because those choices followed me into my future.
People often think sexual discipline before marriage is just about rules or religious expectations. But I’ve come to realize it’s actually about something much deeper: it is about protecting the peace of your future marriage.
When you guard yourself before marriage, you are not just obeying a principle—you are preserving something beautiful for the person you will spend the rest of your life with.
You give them something rare in today’s world: a heart that has been kept, a mind that is free from comparisons, and a love story that begins with them and them alone.
Looking back now, if I could speak to my younger self, I would tell him this:
What feels like freedom today may become a burden tomorrow.
And what feels like restraint today may actually be the greatest gift you give to your future spouse.
Because the truth is, the greatest gift you can give the person you marry is not wealth, success, or even romance.
It is a heart that chose faithfulness before they ever arrived.
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You could take him to the hospital for a second opinion and maybe have an OCT scan done too.
Sending you lots of hugs
1. Somtochukwu Maduagwu, Arise News anchor and lawyer, 29, killed in an armed robbery attack at her home in Katampe, Abuja in September 2025.
2. Barr, Princess Nwamaka Chigbo, former Treasurer of @NigBarAssoc in Abuja, was murdered in the city on her return to the FCT from the Christmas Holidays in SE.
3.Ifunanya Nwangene, 25, an Architect, and a Fast-rising singer known as Nanyah Music, died two days ago after a snake bite at her Abuja(Lugbe) home.
4. Chinemerem Pascalina, a nurse killed by Suspected ‘one chance’ robbery syndicate in Abuja shortly after she closed from her afternoon duty and was heading home on January 3rd 2026.
5. 4 years ago, Dr. Chinelo Nwando Megafu,
A 29-year-old dental surgeon, first daughter, UNIPORT graduate, preparing to leave for Canada. She was shot dead during the Kaduna-Abuja train attack and still found the strength to tweet: “I’m in the train. I have been shot. Please pray for me.”
What followed was not compassion, but mockery. Doubt. Cruelty.
Within 4 months, we have lost 4 female professionals from SE in the city of Abuja, thanks to insecurity and poor health system.
Rather than do his job of guaranteeing security in the Federal Capital & ensuring the perpetrators are brought to book & the residents reassured, the FCT Minister, @GovWike, is busy pursuing personal political vendettas far away in Port Harcourt.
Just think about this:
In the same house in Abuja where the young girl was bitten and killed by a snake, in that same house about 3 snakes have been found.
Yet NOTHING will be done.
UNTIL another person gets bitten and killed in that same area.
3 snakes in one house and everybody in that neighbourhood will just carry on with life like this is normal.
3 snakes in one house means there’s a serious snake problem in that vicinity and area that needs urgent attention.
In a sane country,
You will call Pest Control Agency or RSPCA if you see a snake. They usually have 24:7 phone numbers you can call for urgent help at any time.
Does Nigeria have a functional Pest Control Agency you can call 24/7 for urgent help if you find a snake in your house? Do we even have a Pest Control Agency at all?
You will never know what a chaotic mess this country is until you realise the government doesn’t consider your life worthy of basic lifesaving services that are simple essential amenities in sensible countries.
According to the federal ministry of health in Nigeria, we have about 20,000 snake bites every year with 2,000 deaths and 2,000 amputations every year. Yet we have no functional Pest Control Agency.
What kind of insane country is this?
Just have money, Nigeria is the best place to live. Yen yen yen
This is the reality. Nigeria is not safe for anybody. Imagine not having an antivenom in our hospital in 2026.
This is the same year that the office furniture budget exceeds that of the Healthcare sector. Does it make sense? Pathetic
Now, when Healthcare workers are shouting for better facilities and pay, you all think it's a joke.
The victim of our government's poor and selfish decisions won't be them; it is we, the citizens. They have access to Healthcare abroad, you and I don't.
This is a wake-up call to start demanding what is right from these people. We can't continue like this.
I'm sorry the Nigerian state failed you@nanyah_music. Rest in Peace
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LATE VENERABLE EDWIN ACHI’s FAMILY ARE STILL IN FULANI TERRORISTS CAPTIVITY 💔
LATE VENERABLE EDWIN ACHI’s FAMILY ARE STILL IN FULANI TERRORISTS CAPTIVITY 💔
LATE VENERABLE EDWIN ACHI’s FAMILY ARE STILL IN FULANI TERRORISTS CAPTIVITY 💔
LATE VENERABLE EDWIN ACHI’s FAMILY ARE STILL IN FULANI TERRORISTS CAPTIVITY 💔