میں ایک جلا ہوا پیا سا مسافر ہوں جو پیاس کی شدت کی تاب نہ لا کر پانی میں ڈوب گیا ہو۔
میری زاد راہ جو کنارے پہ ہی رہ گئی ہے وہی میرے وجود کا پتہ دیتی ہے۔
کہ کبھی میں تھا.......
When you discuss these suffocating realities the immediate response from a privileged comfortable audience is denial.
People quickly deflect by saying
Come on time has been changed it's 2026, who actually behaves like this anymore?
This doesn't happen in our homes!
But this skepticism comes from a place of willful blindness. If you step out of your specific bubble and closely observe different social stratayou realize that this toxic micromanagement is thriving right beneath the surface. To deny it is to close your eyes to the living trauma of countless young women.
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These are not hypothetical scenarios; they are documented, lived experiences within my immediate social circles.
The control is so absolute that it extends to the most mundane, everyday choices (like ordering food)
In many traditional households a girl cannot even order a late-night meal with her own money. The mere arrival of a delivery rider in the street is viewed as a massive social risk. The family panics over "what the neighbors might think" if a delivery bike stops outside their gate at night.
A simple natural craving for food is transformed into a question of family honor and neighborhood gossip.
This deep-seated lack of trust ruins every aspect of a girl's autonomy, including basic modern utilities like online shopping. E-commerce is a standard part of life today yet in these homes, a parcel arriving at the doorstep is treated like a security breach.... r
The paranoia reaches a genuinely heartbreaking level when it breaks her connections with other women. Trust is so entirely shattered that these girls are often forbidden from even receiving gifts from their female friends.....
If a close friend tries to send a birthday present, a book or a simple token of affection to their house, the family treats it with immediate suspicion. Instead of seeing it as a beautiful gesture of female solidarity, they suspect it to be a cover for something illicit🙂
Perhaps what confuses me most is how easily these realities are dismissed. Any attempt to question such restrictions is often met with labels rather than reflection as though asking for balance is the same as asking for liberalism.
Maybe these issues affect me deeply because I cannot ignore unnecessary suffering when I see it.
I speak from a position of privilege not deprivation (I have been fortunate to have a great deal of freedom in my own life)yet I find myself troubled by the countless lives quietly confined by restrictions that neither faith explicitly requires nor human nature was meant to endure....!!
(inside many conservative Muslim homes today)
In a sincere but deeply misguided and fearful attempt to protect the soul from sin we have begun to suffocate the human being.
We have constructed a family structure where virtue, modesty and piety are no longer measured by the expansiveness of the heart, the maturity of faith or the purity of character.
The more isolated, controlled and disconnected someone is from ordinary human experiences, the more religious they are assumed to be.
When a young woman is conditioned to believe that the entire world outside her front door is an absolute moral trap and that anyone who does not conform to her specific lifestyle is inherently astray, her worldview shrinks. She begins to view her own peers who engage in the harmless, simple joys of life with a sense of quiet disdain and suspicion.
But they genuinely love God and His Prophet, wear their veils with absolute pride and joy yet they are forbidden from stepping onto their own rooftops to look at the moon, watch the sky or feel the night breeze. An unspoken, irrational paranoia dictates that if a girl steps onto the roof, the family honor is somehow compromised.... (Even the roof is also a part of home but still they are like lrkiyo ka chato pay Jana acha ni smjha jata)We have weaponized cultural insecurities and family anxieties, disguised them as faith and turned the home which should be a sanctuary into a psychological prison.
they also want to experience simple aspects of life that most human beings naturally desire.
They want to walk in a park, sit in a restaurant with their friends, visit a bookstore, enjoy a family outing, look at the moon from a rooftop or simply spend time with their friends!
There is something deeply unsettling about watching a person be treated as though every harmless experience is a potential threat.
A human being is not a machine. The soul has needs. It needs purpose, worship, companionship, curiosity, recreation, movement, beauty and moments of joy. When all healthy outlets are removed those needs do not disappear. They simply seek expression elsewhere.
This is one of the most overlooked realities in many religious discussions.
This absolute deprivation creates a toxic vacuum. In our modern world that vacuum is instantly filled by the unregulated space of smartphones and the internet. Today the entire world is accessible at the swipe of a finger. When you trap a young mind inside extreme physical restrictions while they can see the absolute freedom of the outside world on their screens, the mental friction is devastating.
It is no accident that some of the most erratic and unhinged behavior on social media platforms comes from individuals who belong to the most suffocating domestic environments. The hidden screen becomes an underground tunnel where a starved identity tries to breathe. The resulting moral decline is often the exact outcome the family was trying to prevent. You cannot cage a human being and claim they are pious. True piety requires choice; it is the conscious decision to choose the right path when the wrong one is entirely accessible.
If a parent refuses to let their child ever eat fast food, never gives them spending money, never allows them to make choices for themselves and never provides enjoyable alternatives at home eventually the child's desire will not vanish. It will simply become stronger.
The same principle applies to recreation, social interaction, exploration and harmless leisure.
When every door is closed people begin looking for windows.
Traditional purely cultural families are same.
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they are met with relentless policing from brothers, emotional distance from fathers and a total lack of familial support. In a healthy family structure, it should be the primary responsibility of fathers, brothers and husbands to actively give their daughters, sisters and wives these small moments to breathe and enjoy life. They should be the ones stepping up to provide companionship and take them out to see the world.
But the constanb convenient excuse from men is a lack of time. They are simply too busy with their own routines, workband lives.
If you truly do not have the time to accompany the women of your house yourself it okay not a problem then the absolute least you can do is allow them to utilize their own social capital.
Let them step out within their own safe female circles.
Tragically the paranoia runs so deep that men refuse even this. Girls are routinely denied permission to meet other girls. They are isolated from healthy female friendships and explicitly forbidden from simply sitting, talking or spending time with a trusted peer. By blocking them from their own friends, men cut off the very last lifeline of normal human connection, leaving these young women completely stranded within the four walls of the house.
It is deeply ironic to see a young woman who is sincerely religious herself yet trapped by a family culture that is entirely un-Islamic, rigid and oppressive, denying her the basic right to exist comfortably.
When you refuse to trust your daughter or sister, you murder her self-esteem and permanently crush her confidence. This systematic confinement leads directly to several modern crises:
A Deficit in Socialization:
These women are completely blocked from forming healthy, supportive social circles with other women. They are cut off from extended family and peers, leaving them emotionally isolated.
The Stagnation of Talent:
Despite brilliant academic records, religious knowledge and immense natural talent, they fall severely behind in practical life, professional communication and networking. They never learned how to navigate the world because they were never allowed to see it.
Physical and Mental Deterioration:. The lack of sunlight, fresh air and physical activity leads to premature health issues. By their early 20 to 30s many of these young women are already dealing with chronic anxiety and deep clinical depression.
In a highly competitive, digital and often materialistic era, if our daughters, sistersband wives are making a conscious effort to hold onto their faith, maintain their modesty and develop their intellects, men must stop acting as roadblocks in their lives.
Give them the freedom, the trust and the validation they deserve.
Let them cultivate their hobbies, read widely and build meaningful lives.
Piety is not a fragile piece of glassware that shatters the moment it encounters fresh air. Women who are raised with a healthy consciousness of God and the genuine love of their parents understand their boundaries deeply.
They do not need iron bars to keep them safe. They will protect their parameters themselves, provided you treat them as respected, living human beings rather than domestic property. Protect the sanctity of the home but do not turn that home into a prison 🙂
If you guys remember....
I once started a discussion about different games and got stuck in a debate because some people had a very rigid mindset regarding them. They would simply label everything as lahw wa la'ib and dismiss it as completely pointless 🙂
Recently I came across something interesting while reading and it made me realize how important it is to go back to the actual books and scholarly discussions instead of relying only on incomplete opinions floating around social media or passed down through random conversations.
Honestly I sometimes wish I had opened these books much earlier. A lot of issues are far more nuanced than they are presented online.
Many debates are reduced to black-and-white slogans whereas the classical discussions often contain conditions, distinctions, principles and a much deeper understanding of human nature🙂
(inside many conservative Muslim homes today)
In a sincere but deeply misguided and fearful attempt to protect the soul from sin we have begun to suffocate the human being.
We have constructed a family structure where virtue, modesty and piety are no longer measured by the expansiveness of the heart, the maturity of faith or the purity of character.
The more isolated, controlled and disconnected someone is from ordinary human experiences, the more religious they are assumed to be.
When a young woman is conditioned to believe that the entire world outside her front door is an absolute moral trap and that anyone who does not conform to her specific lifestyle is inherently astray, her worldview shrinks. She begins to view her own peers who engage in the harmless, simple joys of life with a sense of quiet disdain and suspicion.
But they genuinely love God and His Prophet, wear their veils with absolute pride and joy yet they are forbidden from stepping onto their own rooftops to look at the moon, watch the sky or feel the night breeze. An unspoken, irrational paranoia dictates that if a girl steps onto the roof, the family honor is somehow compromised.... (Even the roof is also a part of home but still they are like lrkiyo ka chato pay Jana acha ni smjha jata)We have weaponized cultural insecurities and family anxieties, disguised them as faith and turned the home which should be a sanctuary into a psychological prison.
they also want to experience simple aspects of life that most human beings naturally desire.
They want to walk in a park, sit in a restaurant with their friends, visit a bookstore, enjoy a family outing, look at the moon from a rooftop or simply spend time with their friends!
There is something deeply unsettling about watching a person be treated as though every harmless experience is a potential threat.
A human being is not a machine. The soul has needs. It needs purpose, worship, companionship, curiosity, recreation, movement, beauty and moments of joy. When all healthy outlets are removed those needs do not disappear. They simply seek expression elsewhere.
This is one of the most overlooked realities in many religious discussions.
This absolute deprivation creates a toxic vacuum. In our modern world that vacuum is instantly filled by the unregulated space of smartphones and the internet. Today the entire world is accessible at the swipe of a finger. When you trap a young mind inside extreme physical restrictions while they can see the absolute freedom of the outside world on their screens, the mental friction is devastating.
It is no accident that some of the most erratic and unhinged behavior on social media platforms comes from individuals who belong to the most suffocating domestic environments. The hidden screen becomes an underground tunnel where a starved identity tries to breathe. The resulting moral decline is often the exact outcome the family was trying to prevent. You cannot cage a human being and claim they are pious. True piety requires choice; it is the conscious decision to choose the right path when the wrong one is entirely accessible.
If a parent refuses to let their child ever eat fast food, never gives them spending money, never allows them to make choices for themselves and never provides enjoyable alternatives at home eventually the child's desire will not vanish. It will simply become stronger.
The same principle applies to recreation, social interaction, exploration and harmless leisure.
When every door is closed people begin looking for windows.
Pleasure is not inherently evil…its value is determined by its teleology (its end goal). If a minor pleasure like playing the duff at a wedding, archery or joking with one’s spouse;fuels, protects, or facilitates a higher objective that God loves (e.g., social cohesion, mental freshness, martial readiness) that pleasure elevates from mere amusement into the realm of Haqq (Truth/Purpose).
Scholars categorizes human activities into three distinct zones:
🔻The Purposeful Zone (Haqq):
Anything that directly or indirectly aids a higher spiritual, intellectual or societal good.
🔻The Neutral/Leisure Zone (Batil in its literal, non-sinful sense):
Useless or random activities that have no direct spiritual benefit but carry no dominant harm (mudarrah rajihah). These are permitted as a psychological buffer.
🔻The Destructive Zone (Mabghood/Haram):
Neutral activities that cross into excess (ifrat) or actively block core responsibilities (like prayer or cognitive presence)
(یہاں سے نفسیاتی رخصت کا سب سے بڑا اصول بیان کرتے ہیں:)
اور چونکہ بعض کمزور نفوس جیسے خواتین اور بچوں کی نفسیات اعلیٰ اور عظیم ترین لذتوں کے اسباب (یعنی علمی، فکری اور روحانی مشقتوں) کی طرف اس وقت تک مائل نہیں ہوتے جب تک انہیں کھیل کود اور عارضی تفریح کا کچھ حصہ نہ دے دیا جائے اس حد تک کہ اگر انہیں اس عارضی تفریح سے بالکل ہی کاٹ دیا جائے تو وہ اس سے بھی بدتر اور نقصان دہ چیزوں کے پیچھے بھاگنے لگیں گے
اسی لیے ان کے حق میں ایسی تفریحات کی گنجائش اور رخصت دی گئی ہے جو دوسروں (یعنی پختہ عقل اور بڑے اہداف والے مردوں) کو نہیں دی گئی۔
اور یہ بالکل ایسا ہی ہے جیسے حضرت عمر بن خطاب رضی اللہ عنہ نبی کریم ﷺ کی خدمت میں حاضر ہوئے تو وہاں کچھ بچیاں دف بجا رہی تھیں، جو آپ کی آمد پر (آپ کے جلال کی وجہ سے) خاموش ہو گئیں، تو آپ ﷺ نے فرمایا:
'یہ وہ شخص ہے جو باطل (لایعنی چیزوں) کو پسند نہیں کرتا‘۔
پس آپ ﷺ نے یہ تو واضح فرما دیا کہ یہ کام (کمالِ علم اور عالی مرتبت نفوس کے اعتبار سے) باطل ہے لیکن آپ نے انہیں اس سے روکا نہیں؛ کیونکہ اس لایعنی تفریح کے برقرار رہنے میں ان کے حق میں ایک غالب مصلحت (مصلحة راجحة) تھی، جس کے باعث وہ کسی بڑے نقصان سے محفوظ رہ سکتی تھیں۔
مزید یہ کہ اگر انہیں اس تفریح سے جبراً روک دیا جاتا تو اس محرومی سے ان کے دلوں کو جو دکھ پہنچتا، وہ اس معمولی تفریح کے مفسدے سے کہیں زیادہ بڑا ہوتا۔ پس انہیں اس کھیل کی اجازت دینا دراصل عین رحمت، شفقت اور حسنِ سلوک (احسان) کے باب سے تھا۔
جیسا کہ نبی کریم ﷺ نے (بچوں کی نفسیات کا پاس رکھتے ہوئے) حضرت ابو عمیر کو اپنے سامنے پرندے (چڑیا) سے کھیلنے کی اجازت دی، عید کے دن دو بچیوں کو اپنے پاس گانے کی مہلت دی، حضرت عائشہ رضی اللہ عنہا کو مسجد میں حبشیوں کے جنگی کرتب دیکھنے کا موقع فراہم کیا، اور ایک خاتون کو اس بات کی اجازت دی کہ وہ منّت پوری کرنے کے لیے آپ کے سرِ مبارک کے پاس دف بجائے؛ اور اس کی کئی نظائر موجود ہیں۔
پس (نبوی شفقت اور نفسیاتی رخصت کے اس عظیم نمونے کا) بھلا ان خود ساختہ پیروں اور پیشواؤں کے عمل سے کیا موازنہ، جنہوں نے اسی لایعنی کھیل کود اور رقص و سرور کو باقاعدہ اپنا مستقل دین اور عبادت کا طریقہ بنا لیا ہے! اور (اس کھیل کود کو) ایک ایسا راستہ بنا لیا جس میں انہوں نے اس حد تک وسعت اور من مانی سے کام لیا جس کے حرام ہونے میں کوئی شک و شبہ ہی باقی نہیں رہا
اور (کمزور نفوس کو تفریح کی رخصت دینے کی) بعینہِ یہی مثال نبی کریم ﷺ کا تالیفِ قلب کے لیے (نو مسلموں اور کمزور ایمان والوں کو) زکوٰۃ اور مالِ غنیمت میں سے بڑے بڑے حصے دینا ہے۔ یہ محض اس لیے تھا کہ ان کے دل اپنے دیگر صحابہ میں سے راسخین فی الایمان (ایمان میں چٹان کی طرح مضبوط لوگوں) کے دلوں کے مقابلے میں کمزور تھے۔
اسی وجہ سے آپ ﷺ نے ان (کمزوروں) کو تو عطا فرمایا، مگر ان (مضبوطوں) کو روک لیا؛ اور (مضبوط ایمان والوں کے بارے میں) فرمایا:
'میں انہیں اس غنا (بے نیازی) اور خیر کے سپرد کرتا ہوں جو اللہ نے ان کے دلوں میں رکھ دی ہے‘
اور اسی کی ایک اور واضح مثال:
آپ ﷺ کا ان اعرابیوں (دیہاتیوں)، بچوں اور خواتین کے ساتھ خوش طبعی اور مزاح فرمانا ہے
یہ محض ان کے دلوں کو مائل کرنے (تطييبا لقلوبهم) ان کے ایمان کو جلا بخشنے اور انہیں مسرور کرنے کے لیے تھا۔
اور امام شعبی کی مرسل روایات میں آتا ہے کہ:
نبی کریم ﷺ کا گزر 'درکلہ' (ایک خاص حبشی یا عجمی کھیل) کھیلنے والوں کے پاس سے ہوا تو آپ ﷺ نے فرمایا:
'اے بنی ارفدہ (حبشیو)! اپنا کھیل جاری رکھو، تاکہ یہودیوں اور عیسائیوں کو بھی یہ معلوم ہو جائے کہ ہمارے دین میں وسعت اور گنجائش (فسحة) موجود ہے‘۔
اسے ابو عبید نے ذکر کیا ہے اور کہا ہے کہ 'الدرکلہ' عجم کا ایک کھیل ہے۔
پس، نبی کریم ﷺ نفوسِ انسانی کے سامنے وہ مال اور منافع پیش فرماتے تھے جو انہیں اس حق پر قائم رکھنے میں مدد دیں جس کا انہیں حکم دیا گیا ہے، اور وہ دی جانے والی چیز ایسی ہوتی تھی جس سے لینے والا لذت اور محبت محسوس کرے؛ کیونکہ یہ (عارضی لذت) کسی بڑے اور اعلیٰ ہدف تک پہنچنے کا ایک ذریعہ (وسيلة إلى غيره) ہوتی تھی۔
لیکن آپ ﷺ یہ طریقہ کار ان لوگوں کے ساتھ اختیار نہیں فرماتے تھے جو اس (ظاہری تالیفِ قلب) کے محتاج نہ ہوں
جیسے مہاجرین اور انصار
بلکہ آپ ﷺ ان پر دوسرے اعلیٰ درجے کے احسانات فرماتے اور ان کے دین و دنیا کے حقیقی منافع انہیں عطا کرتے تھے۔
اور چونکہ حضرت عمر بن خطاب رضی اللہ عنہ ان لوگوں میں سے تھے جو نہ تو اس باطل (لایعنی چیزوں) کو پسند کرتے تھے اور نہ ہی اسے سننا چاہتے تھے اور نہ ہی انہیں اس طریقے سے مائل کرنے کی کوئی ضرورت تھی جس سے دوسروں کو مائل کیا جاتا تھا اور نہ ہی وہ اس بات کے مکلف تھے کہ....جس کا حکم نبی کریم ﷺ کو ایمان پر تالیفِ قلب کرنے اور ہر ممکن طریقے سے مخلوق کو اپنی اطاعت پر کاربند رکھنے کے لیے دیا گیا تھا۔
چنانچہ حضرت عمر رضی اللہ عنہ کا اس (مباح تفریح) سے اعراض کرنا خود ان کی اپنی ذات اور مرتبے کے اعتبار سے 'کمال' تھا،
جبکہ نبی کریم ﷺ کا حال اور طرزِ عمل (سب کی نفسیات کا احاطہ کرنے کی وجہ سے) کمالِ مطلق اور سب سے اکمل تھا۔
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Pleasure is not inherently evil…its value is determined by its teleology (its end goal). If a minor pleasure like playing the duff at a wedding, archery or joking with one’s spouse;fuels, protects, or facilitates a higher objective that God loves (e.g., social cohesion, mental freshness, martial readiness) that pleasure elevates from mere amusement into the realm of Haqq (Truth/Purpose).
Scholars categorizes human activities into three distinct zones:
🔻The Purposeful Zone (Haqq):
Anything that directly or indirectly aids a higher spiritual, intellectual or societal good.
🔻The Neutral/Leisure Zone (Batil in its literal, non-sinful sense):
Useless or random activities that have no direct spiritual benefit but carry no dominant harm (mudarrah rajihah). These are permitted as a psychological buffer.
🔻The Destructive Zone (Mabghood/Haram):
Neutral activities that cross into excess (ifrat) or actively block core responsibilities (like prayer or cognitive presence)
(یہاں سے نفسیاتی رخصت کا سب سے بڑا اصول بیان کرتے ہیں:)
اور چونکہ بعض کمزور نفوس جیسے خواتین اور بچوں کی نفسیات اعلیٰ اور عظیم ترین لذتوں کے اسباب (یعنی علمی، فکری اور روحانی مشقتوں) کی طرف اس وقت تک مائل نہیں ہوتے جب تک انہیں کھیل کود اور عارضی تفریح کا کچھ حصہ نہ دے دیا جائے اس حد تک کہ اگر انہیں اس عارضی تفریح سے بالکل ہی کاٹ دیا جائے تو وہ اس سے بھی بدتر اور نقصان دہ چیزوں کے پیچھے بھاگنے لگیں گے
اسی لیے ان کے حق میں ایسی تفریحات کی گنجائش اور رخصت دی گئی ہے جو دوسروں (یعنی پختہ عقل اور بڑے اہداف والے مردوں) کو نہیں دی گئی۔
If you guys remember....
I once started a discussion about different games and got stuck in a debate because some people had a very rigid mindset regarding them. They would simply label everything as lahw wa la'ib and dismiss it as completely pointless 🙂
Recently I came across something interesting while reading and it made me realize how important it is to go back to the actual books and scholarly discussions instead of relying only on incomplete opinions floating around social media or passed down through random conversations.
Honestly I sometimes wish I had opened these books much earlier. A lot of issues are far more nuanced than they are presented online.
Many debates are reduced to black-and-white slogans whereas the classical discussions often contain conditions, distinctions, principles and a much deeper understanding of human nature🙂
If you guys remember....
I once started a discussion about different games and got stuck in a debate because some people had a very rigid mindset regarding them. They would simply label everything as lahw wa la'ib and dismiss it as completely pointless 🙂
Recently I came across something interesting while reading and it made me realize how important it is to go back to the actual books and scholarly discussions instead of relying only on incomplete opinions floating around social media or passed down through random conversations.
Honestly I sometimes wish I had opened these books much earlier. A lot of issues are far more nuanced than they are presented online.
Many debates are reduced to black-and-white slogans whereas the classical discussions often contain conditions, distinctions, principles and a much deeper understanding of human nature🙂
فَلَمْ تَرَ أَمْثَالَ الرِّجَالِ تَفَاوَتُوا
إِلَى الْفَضْلِ حَتَّى عُدَّ أَلْفٌ بِوَاحِدِ
کیا تم نے نہیں دیکھا کہ انسان فضیلت اور کمال میں ایک دوسرے سے کس قدر مختلف ہوتے ہیں؟ یہاں تک کہ بعض اوقات ایک شخص کی قدر و قیمت ہزار آدمیوں کے برابر شمار کی جاتی ہے!
پس ایک صاحبِ عقل کو اس نازک مقام پر گہرائی سے غور کرنا چاہیے اور اپنے نفس کو ایک ایسے شخص کی جگہ رکھ کر دیکھنا چاہیے جس سے اس کا سب سے عظیم اور سب سے زیادہ نفع بخش محبوب (منزلِ مقصود) ہمیشہ کے لیے چھوٹ گئی ہو، حالانکہ وہ اپنی ذات میں اس منزل کا سب سے زیادہ محتاج اور فقیر تھا؛ اور یہ محرومی بھی ایسی ہو کہ اب اس کی تلافی کی کوئی امید باقی نہ رہی ہو۔
اور (اس محبوب کے چھن جانے کے ساتھ ساتھ) اسے اس کی ضد (یعنی بدترین عذاب) کا سامنا کرنا پڑ گیا ہو۔ ہائے! یہ کیسی دردناک مصیبت ہے اور کیسی ہولناک حالت ہے!
کہاں یہ ابتر حالت اور کہاں اس خوش بخت انسان کی کیفیت جو دنیا میں ہر اس مباح (Permissible) چیز سے بھی لذت کشید کرتا ہے جس کے پیچھے اس کا مقصد اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ کی رضا پانا ہو خواہ وہ کھانا پینا ہو، خوبصورت لباس ہو، نکاح ہو، یا دشمن کو مغلوب کر کے اپنے حق پسند جذبے کو تسکین دینا اور اللہ کی راہ میں جہاد کرنا ہو؟!
چہ جائیکہ وہ اعلیٰ ترین اور بے داغ سرور جو اسے اپنے رب کی معرفت، اس کی محبت، اس کی توحید، اس کی طرف رجوع کرنے (انابت)، اس پر توکل کرنے، اس کی طرف دل سے متوجہ ہونے، اسی کے لیے اعمال کو مخلص کرنے، اس پر راضی ہونے اور اس کی رضا کو پانے، اپنے تمام معاملات اس کے سپرد کرنے، اس کے قرب سے دل کے جھوم اٹھنے اور مسرور ہونے، اس کے ساتھ انس پانے اور اس کی ملاقات کے شوق سے حاصل ہوتا ہے! جیسا کہ اس حدیثِ مبارکہ میں آیا ہے جسے ابنِ حبان اور حاکم نے صحیح قرار دیا ہے:
وَأَسْأَلُكَ لَذَّةَ النَّظَرِ إِلَى وَجْهِكَ، وَالشَّوْقَ إِلَى لِقَائِكَ
(اور میں تجھ سے تیرے چہرۂ انور کو دیکھنے کی لذت کا اور تیری ملاقات کے شوق کا سوال کرتا ہوں)۔
اور یہ (معرفتِ الٰہی کی) لذت دنیا میں بھی مسلسل بڑھتی ہی رہتی ہے، باوجود اس کے کہ انسان کا باطنی دشمن (جیسے شیطان، خواہشاتِ نفس، نفسِ امارہ اور مادی دنیا کے فریب) اور اس کے ظاہری اعداء اس لذت کے سرور کو کرکرا (مکدر) کرنے کی مسلسل کوششوں میں لگے رہتے ہیں۔
تو پھر ذرا سوچیے کہ اس لذت کا کیا عالم ہوگا جب یہ روح (جسم کے مادی پردوں اور کثافتوں سے) بالکل پاک اور مجرد ہو جائے گی، غموں اور آفتوں کے اس عارضی گھر (دنیا) کو ہمیشہ کے لیے خیرباد کہہ دے گی، اور رفیقِ اعلیٰ سے جا ملے گی.... ان ہستیوں کے جلیل القدر جھرمٹ میں جن پر اللہ نے اپنا انعام فرمایا، یعنی انبیاء، صدیقین، شہداء اور صالحین؛ اور یہ کیا ہی بہترین رفیق ہیں! یہ اللہ کی طرف سے بہت بڑا فضل ہے، اور اللہ کا جاننا ہی کافی ہے
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All human pain, sadness, anxiety and distress originate from exactly three roots:
1. A profound lack of knowledge regarding the truly beneficial beloved (the ultimate worthy objective).
2. A failure of will and prioritization where one possesses knowledge of the ultimate objective but lacks the resolve to prefer it over lesser distractions.
3. A failure of attainment and execution where the soul possesses both the love and the will for the ultimate objective yet fails to capture or secure it. And this third state constitutes the absolute greatest of all human pains....
Consequently the anguish a person experiences in the Barzakh and in the Abode of Absolute Life (Dar al-Hayawan the Hereafter) over the loss of their ultimate objective is incomparably greater than any pain of loss experienced in this worldly life due to three distinct dimensions:
🔻The First:
The soul’s unclouded, absolute realization there of the utter perfection and staggering magnitude of what it has lost.
🔻The Second:
The terrifying intensity of the soul’s desperate need and burning longing for that objective, existing simultaneously with the reality that an insurmountable, eternal barrier has now been dropped between the soul and its desire. As Allah the Exalted stated:
'And a barrier was placed between them and what they intensely desired.' [Surah Saba: 54]
Third:
The manifestation of its agonizing opposite.
نظر آتے نہیں بے پردہ حقائق ان کو
آنکھ جن کی ہوئی محکومی و تقلید سے کور
علامہ اقبال ایک مکتوب میں لکھتے ہیں:
غلام قوم مادیات کو روحانیت پر مقدم سمجھنے پر مجبور ہو جاتی ہے اور جب انسان میں خوئے غلامی راسخ ہو جاتی ہے تو وہ ہر ایسی تعلیم سے بیزاری کے بہانے تلاش کرتا ہے جس کا مقصد قوت نفس اور روحِ انسانی کا ترفع ہو۔
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And people like me (brelvi but not this much coward) around them nothing less than blessing....
Jo kam madrassy waly Brelvis sy ni hota waha mujhy agy krty....
We even study Arabic grammar together and I’ve noticed that some friends hesitate to admit 🤡 they are learning from wahabis even though they still benefit from them and want others to learn as well...
Wahabi judges spotted 🤡
The moment a contestant started reciting Kalam-e-Ala Hazrat...
a few judges (for qira't, seerah and calligraphy) start ignoring everything suddenly became very busy with their phones 😂 and started making awkward expressions....
Like... seriously? What's wrong with them... You can feel it Wahhabi judges trying their hardest not to look bothered while looking extremely bothered...
Join events.... Attend seminars.... Volunteer... Participate in competitions...
Join activities that make you happy, teach you something new, help you meet different people, expand your social circle and allow you to explore opportunities beyond your comfort zone🙌
One thing I've realized is that exposure is not about collecting certificates.
It's about collecting versions of yourself you would never have discovered otherwise....
If you have the freedom and opportunity to explore just use it in every positive way!❤️