Sparkle Poodle

God First | 🇯🇲 | ΣΓΡ 💙💛 | Macro Social Worker | Mental Health Advocate

[Sparkle Poodle @__biancaaaaa]

Bianca Hannon, MSW 💛

[‏ً @omgsidewalks]

You don't have to show everybody your full personality like it's very okay to be absolutely nobody to some people.

[Freyy @Freyy_is]

dear apple, the iPod needs to come back. not for nostalgia. for the parents who want their kids to love music and audiobooks without a browser, social media, and the whole internet attached to it

[Yves ౨ৎ @yvessirae]

We were at a party when one of his old friends the kind who thinks she’s funny said,

“If you ever get tired of her, you know where to find me.”

She smiled like it was harmless.

Before I could even process it, he said,
“I don’t entertain disrespect. Especially not toward my wife.”

No laugh. No “she’s joking.” No softening it.

The room shifted.

He didn’t protect my feelings quietly later.
He protected my dignity right there.

And I realized something that night 
loyalty isn’t what someone says in private.
It’s what they shut down in public.

[goma @soigomaa]

Whenever l am slightly disrespected by a man, I remember my favorite Michelle Obama lore. There's a story about them dining at a restaurant when they learned the chef used to be Michelle's high school boyfriend

Barack joked,
lf you were still with him, you could have been the owner of this nice restaurant."

Michelle replied,
"No. If I were still with him, he would have been President of the United States."
And that's the energy every woman should have about her own worth.

[Asanwa.sol @Chizitere_xyz]

Let me tell you about a couple who beat the exact silent killer that ruins millions of marriages. Let’s call them Mark and Elena.

​By year seven, Mark and Elena hadn't been intimate in eight months. Between demanding jobs and the heavy mental load of daily life, the fire was completely dead.
​Mark felt constantly rejected, so his ego made him pull away and start sleeping on the couch. Elena felt entirely invisible, more like a house manager than a wife, so whenever he did try to initiate, it felt transactional, making her pull away even more. They were two ghosts haunting the same house, quietly waiting for someone to call a divorce lawyer.

​Then, Mark did the bravest thing a husband can do. He swallowed every ounce of his pride, sat on the edge of the bed, and asked:
​"I miss you. I feel completely disconnected, and I am terrified we are losing each other. What do you need from me right now to feel safe enough to let me back in?"

​Elena broke down. She finally admitted she wasn't rejecting him; she was just drowning in exhaustion and felt unseen.
​They didn't magically fix it that night. They rebuilt it intentionally. Mark started taking over household burdens without being asked so Elena could actually breathe and feel like a woman again.
They committed to ten minutes of talking every night with zero screens, and started with simple, non-sexual touch to remove the pressure. Within six months, the wall was gone, and their intimacy was bulletproof.
​
Long-term intimacy is not effortless. It is a daily, intentional choice to cross the room when your ego is screaming at you to build a wall. They conquered the silence because they realized the enemy wasn't each other, it was the distance

[𝓑ᥫ᭡ @quesadaaa_]

men are 100% more emotional than women, society just likes to pretend that anger and impatience aren’t emotions

[.D @WaitDeeDee]

Single dads *often* offload major aspects of parenting onto women related to them. Feeding, child minding, teaching, safeguarding, healthcare, etc. under the guise of "help"

This guy only has his son for 2 days and still can't make time for him lol. Mom/sister always do tho 🙃

[Bianca 👑 @biancasig]

They need to discuss that before having children, if we’re being honest.

[Dr Ruby (she/her) jaboukies everything @PaperWhispers]

Black women, please tell another Black woman in your circle.

[Jenni @hashjenni]

This is what we want to see AI being used for, not to create another social media auto replier for marketing

[martha @mxmsworld]

I like this a lot.

[RN Dominic 🩺 @Domincato]

Avoid the cheap dopamine hit of announcing everything to people. Life is easier when no one knows about you.

[Jessicunt @jessicnnt]

this is what intimacy is about to me, the literal phenomenon of remembering ppl in ways they’ve forgotten themselves

[‏ً @omgsidewalks]

i grew up walking on eggshells, recognising footsteps, tones. How to tell if someone was in a bad mood and avoid them. I learned to study people at a young age. I’m quiet and observant for a reason. I’ll read you like a book before we even speak

[💗 @ma1ybe]

- Flowers must be a regular thing
- We must talk everyday
- Check in when you’re out (“just arrived”, “on my way home” etc)
- No exes that are friends
- Don’t move like a single man (online & outside)
- Plan dates (I hate a “we’ll see”)

[Nae @NaesCloset]

It’s so attractive when a man thinks this way.

[velocindy @sndeaux]

& it doesn’t matter how cautious you are, someone reckless can end it all in a second & I hate that so much.

[COCO @TWOTIMESABITCH]

i wouldn’t have went through half of the stuff i went through if i just said no and had boundaries