My abortion is the kind people love to judge the most. I wasn’t underage, I wasn’t assaulted, and there was no medical emergency. I got pregnant because I knowingly had unprotected sex, no accident, no rare failure, just my own choices.
By their standards, it was “irresponsible.” I knew abortion was an option, and I took it. Not because I couldn’t survive it or raise a child, I simply didn’t want one. I wanted sex without becoming a parent, and I chose not to carry the pregnancy.
There’s no redemption arc here. I don’t regret it. Nothing terrible happened to me afterward, no punishment, no downfall. My life is still good. And that reality alone challenges everything people like to assume about women who make this choice.
I heard a therapist say, “Your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.” She explained by saying feel what you feel BUT you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.
For our relationships to prosper, we must deliberately and consistently assume benevolent intent in actions, and ignorance — rather than malice — in omissions.
Women who show apathy towards women-related issues make me laugh. You are not special. You are not bigger than the program. You cannot be too safe. You are not better than the angry women. You are a woman, my dear, and the misogyny will find you wherever you are. Period.
A hill I'm forever dying on is that your feminism needs to be as unhinged and unapologetic as the patriarchy you’re dismantling. Think about red pill guys or misogynistic men, they speak with such absolute conviction even when their takes are pathetic and dumb and
I hope you people know young boys are also there watching & joining these things. See what you are teaching them is okay? Tomorrow when someone speaks out on how this culture forms, you will say women online hate men. We have so much to do re socialization in this country
One thing about Nigeria traditions, they never favor women. Always some diabolical agenda to keep women caged, scared and violated. There is no reason such a predatory and violent tradition should exist in 2026. Women are people, no tradition should treat them otherwise.
I see some saying Odumeje is a fake pastor? How is Odumeje worse than the pastors who claim their shadows can make men fall while moving around with armed bodyguards and personal doctors? The pastor who claims he can heal the sick and cast and bind powerful demons but is afraid of robbers and kidnappers, ordinary men with guns? The pastor who has claims to have power over principalities but goes to the hospital like everyone else? The one who does fake prophecies every year that never come to pass? The ones who have visions of the future but cannot see when their own church building is going to collapse and kill people or that their wife is going to leave them?
At least Odumeje, the dead man in a battufiewd, the lion hinsef, the war, fully commits to the performance and actually entertains and brings joy.
I put ‘hypocrite’ in my bio for a reason. No matter how strong your principles are, in the face of personal relationships, you will falter. Every single time. That’s the human condition. But too many of you pretend you’re celestial beings above contradiction. Let this be a lesson