Jay Stringer

Author of Unwanted:How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

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After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices.
My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.

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43% of women and 31% of men report a sexual dysfunction.
15–20% of couples are in a sexless marriage.
21 million women are living with betrayal trauma linked to infidelity.

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If you're facing a sexual challenge — you are overwhelmingly normal.

43% of women and 31% of men report a sexual dysfunction. 15–20% of couples are in a sexless marriage. 21 million women are living with betrayal trauma linked to infidelity.

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We treat low sexual desire like it's a malfunction.

A hormone problem. A libido problem. Something to be fixed.

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Most of us are pursuing growth. Very few of us know what we're actually growing toward.

The Desire Profile Quiz is the first step toward knowing yourself well enough to want the right things.

Visit https://t.co/6IA8uPpI1O to take the free quiz today.

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The greatest complications in your life today are a living biography of your past. They tell a story of where you come from, what you had to survive, and how you learned to navigate the wasteland.

Get your copy of Desire today: https://t.co/N6d0mYxqSP

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Most couples aren't failing at love.

They're failing at confronting the patterns that prevent it.

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📍 Source: Desire, Ch. 8

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The free Desire Profile Quiz takes two minutes and gives you a framework for understanding yourself that most people have never had. Take it today at https://t.co/6IA8uPpI1O.

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Research suggests that about 30 percent of marriages will be impacted by infidelity.

If you've experienced betrayal, your speechlessness is not weakness. It is biology. And it is the beginning of a story that can still be reclaimed.

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I get the appeal. Loneliness is at epidemic levels. Relationships require risk. Love asks us to tolerate anxiety, conflict, repair, grief, and the possibility of loss.

But Christianity has something compelling to offer in this age of disincarnation.
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Unaddressed trauma doesn't just affect our memories. It rewires the way we want — love, connection, pleasure, purpose. It corrupts the signal.

The good news? Desire is remarkably resilient.

Desire is where I go deeper on all of this: https://t.co/u8Gt3320Ws

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I've sat with thousands of people in therapy over the years.

And almost all of them came in thinking they had one specific problem — a bad marriage, a stalled career, an addiction, a body they couldn't stand.

What they actually had was a fractured relationship to desire.

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That's not an excuse. It's an invitation — to stop fighting yourself and start getting curious about what formed you.

Understanding this changes everything about how you approach healing.

Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: https://t.co/2GnZLKUIqx

#Desire

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The body becomes so conditioned to tension and vigilance that it struggles to trust or receive alternative realities like safety and peace.

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The movement went further than traditional teaching — it attempted to wage war against sexual desire itself.

Purity rings. Purity balls. Girls pledging their sexuality to their fathers.

We can and must do better.

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Desire problems build over generations, quietly shaping our lives.

Only by stepping back to examine our family's legacy of desire can we find the courage to defy these cycles.

What legacy of desire did your family leave for you?

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Why do some requests feel legitimate, while others immediately irritate us?

My new piece with @RonCarucci in @HarvardBiz explores why your irritation is never random — it's data about yourself and those you lead.

https://t.co/Do6BRWfQDS

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If we find ourselves wanting triumph over our trauma, compulsively stimulating our body, or resisting embodiment, we may be missing the chance to go upstream to experience wholeness.

Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: https://t.co/7GA3xcFCjB

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Most people know my work through Unwanted — and a lot of you have had questions I haven't had a chance to answer.

Next Friday, I want to hear what stood out to you.

This one won't be recorded — join us live.

Click this link to register: https://t.co/i01nvjlmd5

#Unwanted

[Jay Stringer @_jaystringer]

43% of women and 31% of men report a sexual dysfunction. 15–20% of couples are in a sexless marriage. 21 million women are living with betrayal trauma linked to infidelity.

Sexual problems reveal where we come from. They are not a verdict on who we are.

#Desire #JayStringer

[Jay Stringer @_jaystringer]

Most of us have spent our lives treating desire as the part of us that needs to be controlled, tamed, or spiritually overcome. Desire invites you on a different journey: to take seriously the desires that God has put inside of you.

Desire is available now where books are sold.