The whole ycee conversation wasn't about Peller but about a systemic degradation of our education.
I would expect everyone arguing, dropping think pieces & setting camera to have picked up on that.
No surprise that the uprisen olodos are proving the point of olodo uprising.
So I attended my first real Fidau yesterday, and I have been in deep thought ever since.
For a long time, I aligned with the scholars who consider Fidau an innovation (bid'ah), since it was not a practice established by the Prophet or his companions. Because of that, I neither attended such gatherings nor ate food prepared for them.
I had a strong reason to attend one yesterday.
As I sat through the gathering, I noticed that much of the program revolved around making du'a for the deceased, reminding the children of their duty to continue praying for their deceased, encouraging sadaqah on his behalf, preserving family ties, and reminding everyone present of the certainty of death.
The atmosphere was very emotional.
Many of us could not hold back their tears. I saw big men cry.
As for the food, I saw people who may not know where their next meal would come from eat to their satisfaction. In that moment, it felt more like sadaqah than a ceremony.
Hence my question: If a gathering serves as a reminder of death, encourages prayer for the deceased, strengthens family bonds, inspires charity, and benefits the needy, should it still be wrong?
And if something brings benefit to the Ummah, does its absence during the Prophet's time automatically make it impermissible?
I would love to hear from those more knowledgeable on the subject.
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There is a gang rape video that is spreading on X. For the life of me, I do not understand why people enjoy rape videos when someone is being violated. Rape in itself is a terrible experience, how much worse a gang rape. We should talk about it.
I struggle to understand why anyone would rape. Rape is a theft and an invasion. You steal a person's right to consent to whom they share their body with, and you invade their body without regard to their person. Dignity of human person is a fundamental human right, but even more than that, a common sense approach in dealing with people. Everyone reserves a right to consent.
The fight against rape has been long and bumpy, and that is why we must keep speaking up. People of all ages are being raped and having their bodily autonomy stolen from them. To be a decent human is not hard, you just have to be humane and see the other person as human. We even have adults who violate children that cannot protect themselves or speak up for themselves, leaving them with a ripple effect of compound damages.
For the poorly educated who make argument about wetness and erection to prove consent, or orgasm to prove that the person enjoyed the rape, please understand that an erect penis or lubricated vagina, isn't necessarily a sign of arousal. It is called Arousal Non-concordance. That is where your bodily reaction and your sexual desires are not in alignment, because blood flowing to your genitals does not mean you are mentally interested in sex. Rape and arousal can happen simultaneously, and one does not exclude the other. Orgasm during rape isn't an expression of pleasure. It is an example of an involuntary response to pleasure. The body responds to pain and pleasure regardless of how you feel.
Now, to the rape itself, there is a cold-hearted wickedness to insisting on a right to possess something that isn't yours and isn't your to take, and taking it by force. Even when two consenting adults are having sex, you have to exercise grace and kindness to understand how their body is reacting to it so you can make love to them right and understand when they need a breather or stop when they need you to stop. Imagine what it means to be violated because rape is a violation. Now imagine 4 to 5 guys taking turns to rape one lady.
There is the denial that comes with disbelief that this is happening to you. Then there is the fear because you can't even react for fear of harm. The eyes that are heavy with tears that refuse to flow. The plea that skips the rapists and echoes somewhere in the mountain. The silent prayer for the ground to swallow you. The lips that screams words that cannot be uttered. The blank stare of the ceiling watching you violated. The sweating skin beneath a blanket of shame. The deadness of the light in the eyes that is clouded by a hollowness that would remain a mainstay through relived trauma. Then the injurious wickedness to your body because they neither care how your feel or how much you hurt. They are there to orgasm and will not stop till they ejaculate. For gang rape, it is a continuous violation that leaves you dead in body and spirit, and you juat want to take your life.
I hope wherever she is, she gets the help she needs with the injurious trauma she has to live with, and find someone that loves her right. To every rape victims - whether at childhood or adulthood, I hope you find healing in your body and your heart, never lose the light in your eyes and find strength to navigate this world and positively impact it. Blessings 🙏🏾
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