@lemon__bat when i first got into my position i absolutely loved it and now it’s mentally draining and i feel like i’m not appreciated for the work i do and there’s no where i can go 🙃
Psychologist, Dr. Stephen Karpman created The Drama Triangle.
I found that this dynamic is in almost all dysfunctional relationships, and most of us don't even see it.
Here's what YOU can learn from it:
calling out of work should not feel like a crime, your life should not revolve around work. you’re allowed to have a sick day, an emergency situation and if need be, a day of rest. the end.
‘I overplayed my part’, ‘I cared too much’ no. you were simply being you: gentle & thoughtful. someone was using you for their own benefit and you’re trying to understand how you messed it up? you didn’t. they didn’t value you the way you valued them, and that’s never your fault.
You say something you regret. Your heart is racing, you feel like crying, or throwing something. You replay the conversation over and over.…
How to work through an emotional trigger
(a mini course):
As a therapist, I found one common dynamic that keeps people in a cycle of feeling hurt and misunderstood.
This dynamic is called the determiner and saver: