some of y’all think you make good partners because you won’t cheat but you fail to realize you're inconsiderate, unappreciative, manipulative, insecure, lack empathy, have poor communication skills, and harbor emotional trauma from past relationships.
Nothing exposes your need for character development like a Relationship. You’ll think you have sense, until you realize you have issues with communication, you’re impatient, defensive or have trust issues.
You’re telling me dating is essentially having a really cool time with someone just to find out y'all aren’t compatible and you have to do it over and over until you find someone who is?
After a certain age, being a bad partner is just embarrassing. Sooo you didn’t do any work on yourself? No introspection, no healing, no growth… just basking in your toxicity huh?
A painful lesson I had to learn was: people have the right to no longer be romantically interested in you and it's normal for relationships to not workout, especially in the pre-commitment phase. This forced me to be more careful with how I share my emotions. When I realized that
I keep seeing takes of “women don’t really want this!!!” and the truth is, women want this AFTER they like you
Flowers and romantic gestures aren’t for winning her over, that looks out of place and creepy
They’re for expressing a level of interest you BOTH already have
my therapist told me: when you feel "numb" it's because you're feeling all of your emotions at once and your brain dissociates in order to protect you from pain. and then it all made sense.
Emotionally intelligent men are top tier. Nothing's more attractive than a man who tells you how much he wants you, reassure you without even asking. A man who is busy but keeps you updated all day instead of ignoring you, tells you how much he Misses you instead of acting cold.
for me, the purest form of love is consideration. when someone thinks about how things would make u feel. pays attention to detail. holds u in regard when making decisions that could affect u. in any bond, how much they care about u can be found in how much they consider u