You deserve a calm love with someone who is good for your mental health and nervous system. Someone who is your safe space, your best friend, and brings peace to your soul during stressful times.
A healing stage is disgust. Yes, disgust. You will be DISGUSTED by the people whose love you sought. You will feel embarrassed about the choices you made and the people who had access to you who didn’t deserve it. Feel this feeling then let it go.
That will NEVER be you again.
Unhealed trauma can cause you to excuse, ignore or downplay mistreatment because you've survived worse. Healing helps you recognise your worth & raise your standards on how you should be treated. You're worthy of being respected & treated right in all interactions/relationships.
I dislike when people say “I know her. I went to school with her.” We graduated almost 10 years ago & you knew me as an teenager. I’m sure you can’t even recall the last time you had a conversation with me. You honestly have no idea about my life or transition into womanhood. So no you do not know me, you knew of me. So let that be!
Dear Absent Fathers
Never assume that the mother taught the child to hate you. A child can notice a father who doesn't want to be involved in their life. Stop the nonsense of always thinking that mothers poison their kids against you.
YOUR ABSENCE is the BIGGEST POISON.
you ever have so much to get done in a certain amount of time, but you sit doing nothing until the last minute when you panic that nothing is done, cause same