we love amanda but we also need to talk about the structural trap. standar kecantikan itu rooted in male gaze, & kapitalisme pinter nge-rebrand itu jadi kedok empowerment. that's exactly why choice feminism is flawed.
we can still enjoy makeup while acknowledging this, kok ❤️
this society always push women to somehow look “presentable”, makeup ini itu, katanya kalo daerah lipatan gelap = jorok, gaboleh ada facial hair or even ARMPITS HAIR???
trus lu pada bingung kenapa ini semua part of patriarchy YANG BENER AJE
yasudah lah klo pada blm ngeh ya dikasih tau ajah..... gpp jg sih syok tp gmn yah yang punya akses belajar aja dikit...... i mean...... being woke is a privilege deh ga semua orang punya kesempatan yg sama..... ya ga sih...... 😞😞
sayangku, keinginan untuk merasa cantik dan lebih baik meskipun dilakukan untuk diri sendiri itu datangnya bukan dari ruang hampa. ada keterikatan dengan faktor lain yang bikin kamu merasa ingin berubah dan itu erat kaitannya dengan konstruksi sosial.
hampir semua orang gaada yg suci di bawah kapitalisme, kak. itulah kenapa kritik ditujukan kepada sistemnya. sifat kritik harus struktural, bukan personal. dan sah² aja points out amanda sbg agen dari pelanggeng patriarki. bukan karena dia buruk moralnya, tp sebagai pengingat
kenapa ya tiap ada diskursus tuh average indonesians ga mau diajak mikir deeper kaya i know its uncomfortable to force yourself to reexamine everything you knew tapi bisa gitu loh ga reaktif dan langsung melabeli kritik sebagai "iri/ga penting"
Makasih buat kakak-kakak yg awalnya ngebring up diskursus choice feminism ini. We are still far away, but okay we can learn little by little deconstructing this fucking patriarchal system for a decade
I grew up with present father.
Married a present husband. So I don’t need men to mansplain ‘not all men’.
But the narratives that men work hard, and had their brain capacity depleted due to their work, and then gaslight women who question/protest that their men are useless at home by calling it ‘safe space’, seethe the hell out of me.
As if domestic works are not hard work, and doesn’t yield the same fatigue.
Not to mention working moms, who still need to handle domestic work.
Workplace is war zone for men?
It is for women too? And your audacity had to make home war zone for women too?
Okay, okay. Maybe you’re tag teaming. Maybe you take turn to take rest.
But romanticizing the whole phenomenon of useless men at home as ‘safe space’, invalidates the fact that the system rarely rewards women’s hardwork with adequate rest the way it rewards men.
Because when women shut down, they risk getting murdered.
perdebatan ini ga abis abis asli, kek gak ada yg ngelarang lo luluran, pake makeup, shaving, ke dokter kecantikan utk mempercantik diri TUH GAK ADA, tpi gausah denial jg kalo semua itu tuh asalny dari PATRIARKI loh
i didnt care about makeup until people treated a prettier girl better than me when we made pretty much the same mistake. i started wearing makeup after bcs i want to be treated better (i.e. for my sake), but that doesn't mean it's empowering. im simply blending into the system.
alhamdulillah standar suami di islam itu yang QAWWAM, udah jelas dari dulu
ga kebayang semisalnya Nabi ﷺ pulang dakwah, perang, atau dagang, terus sampe rumah planga-plongo klemar-klemer demi “safe space” WKWKWKW
Hadaanallah (semoga Allah memberi kita hidayah)