Many ambitious people aren’t optimizing for success but moral superiority over the people they resent. Grind becomes emotionally useful cause it creates psychological distance from “the ordinary.” Achievement is often partly an emotional revenge project disguised as discipline.
@morganhousel basically everyone loving the time when they didn't had to face reality.
Kids are protected by elders from the reality which is indifferent to our states, which is why most people classify it as "harsh reality."
The truth is, reality is not harsh, it is just indifferent.
We look at a life built for achievement and criticize the absence of balance.
We look at a life built for closeness and criticize the absence of scale.
We measure one path using the values of another and call the difference failure but sometimes it is simply a different answer.
people rarely finalize us the way we finalize ourselves. most people hold softer, blurrier models of ourselves. most of us carrying a sharper internal verdict than the others have of us.
healthy families often contain the people who force contact with reality and the people who maintain bonds.
ones who tell truth get admired and ones who preserve harmony get liked.
but when they conflict, human nature frequently sides with harmony first and truth later.
the more capable the man, the more responsibilities flow toward him automatically.
success attracts dependence and without boundaries, competence becomes unpaid labor.
Many people secretly want the rewards of responsibility without responsibility itself.
Respect without competence.
Love without becoming reliable.
Desire without becoming attractive.
Leadership without pressure.
No wonder why many wonder why are they despaired.
@SahilBloom Don't just jump in the arena unprepared or keep preparing forever.
In reality, it's a loop.
Think → until the next meaningful uncertainty can't be reduced by thinking → then act → to generate new info → then think again using that new info → keep repeating until you win.