neuroplasticity works faster under high emotional intensity. if you can resist a craving when it's at its peak, you get a bigger rewiring effect. this is why the hardest moments matter most, they're not setbacks, they're high-voltage opportunities to change.
This paragraph from Carl Jung hits so hard.
“The world is full of people suffering from the effects of their own unlived life. They become bitter, critical, or rigid, not because the world is cruel to them, but because they have betrayed their own inner possibilities. The artist who never makes art becomes cynical about those who do. The lover who never risks loving mocks romance. The thinker who never commits to a philosophy sneers at belief itself. And yet, all of them suffer, because deep down they know: the life they mock is the life they were meant to live.”
I sterted seing myself differently when I realised that only Africans- black people- had 100% hue-man DNA.
All other races: white, indian, pacific islanders, arab... have neanderthal DNA.
All is reps. There’s no substitution for reps. 10,000 hours is just a metaphor for reps. Chess is reps. Painting is reps. Thinking, wisdom, even prayer is reps. There’s a reason the French say ‘apprendre par cœur’ (to learn by heart). Repetition itself is the stairway to heaven
One of the things you lie to yourself when young is that people just wake up and make monumentally bad decisions,the mistake that breaks you is never the first mistake,usually it’s a culmination of bad choices that never seemed to matter till one did and broke you publicly
Underrated life advice: Just be easy to work with. Show up on time. Do what you said you'd do. Bring solutions, not problems. Never create drama. Be responsive. Be emotionally consistent. Be kind. People will always want to support someone who just makes their life easier.
deconstruct the desire to be seen only under the perfect conditions.. your essence is actually more prominent against circumstances that are not ideal.
A lot of life advice just comes down to this: Do uncomfortable things sooner. The delayed conversation gets harder. The ignored problem expands. The minor repair becomes a major one. Peace isn't found through avoidance. The calm life is earned through early action.
This sentence by Dostoyevsky hits so hard:
“You sensed that you should be following a different path, a more ambitious one, you felt that you were destined for other things but you had no idea how to achieve them and in your misery you began to hate everything around you.”
And I think brilliance is the easy part. Structure, that's the mountain. To do something repeatedly, consistently, and adequately takes a lot more than inherent nature. Brilliance without structure will always be potential, which gradually mestasizes into regret.
Your relationship with yourself cannot be built entirely around improvement. At some point, you have to become someone you are allowed to enjoy being. You get to be proud of who you are. Present tense.
I don't know who needs to hear this but I went on my first ever holiday at age 34. This is the moment I felt I could afford a holiday. So live life at your own pace.