I’m not auditioning to be a wife. I’m not performing tasks to earn a man’s approval. I won’t be cooking, cleaning, or managing his life for him - was he not doing those things before me? I don’t exist to create more time for him to do what he wants, as I put my passions on the back burner. I will not satiate his ego by being in his shadow.
That used to be my natural way of showing ‘love’, but I have learned that nurturing has to be earned through actual commitment. Not exploited with no reciprocation.
I prefer a man who doesn’t need me, but wants me. That way, I can just exist as myself, securely, without the pressure to fill his voids or be his little helper.
My relationships are not a job - they are a mutual experience of love. And my love is not measured in household chores or an assistant position. I came here to love you, not clean up your mess or do your work for you.
At some point you really have to tell yourself “this is not an experience I want to keep having” and stop entertaining things that don’t benefit you in any way.
If you can’t even take care of the things you currently have, what makes you think you are ready for the things you deeply desire. Have gratitude always