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[Codie Sanchez @Codie_Sanchez]

Before I got married, I asked my parents what actually makes a marriage last.

And the more pregnant I get, the more I realize just how critical the man you marry really is.

My parents have been married 50+ years.

Here's what they told me...

1. Make your own money. Marry someone funny.

My dad always said this. Life is hard. Really hard. My parents still make each other laugh 50+ years later. Find someone who can make you smile even when life isn’t giving you much to smile about.

2. But is he kind?

I’d tell my mom all the accolades of my potential gents. Successful, handsome, smart, ambitious. She’d only ever respond, “But is he kind to you?” Good reminder.

3. Find a man, not a boy.

My dad can hunt, cook, fix anything, ride horses, motorcycles, redo an engine and play dang near any sport. He always told me to look for a man, not a boy. Men do manly things.

4. Protectors before providers.

Success is great. Money is great. But when someone breaks into your house, does he stand in front of you or behind you?

5. Look at his circle.

His friends are a reflection of him. Maybe that’s why my husband’s friends would be some of my first calls in a moment of crisis.

6. Porching it.

My parents had this idea. Imagine the two of you decades from now, sitting on a porch. No phones. No entertainment but each other’s conversation. Are you happy? Because eventually that’s what marriage looks like. Better like the person sitting next to you.

7. You’re his first. He’s yours too.

Above your parents, friends. Even your kids. Choose your husband first. My parents always made it clear that they were a team before anything else. Kids grow up but the marriage stays.

8. Watch the little things.

Does he open doors? Shake hands with your parents? Look them in the eye? Pick you up on time? Keep his word? Small respects compound. How someone does the little things is often how they’ll do the big ones.

9. Be best friends.

My parents are. They tell each other everything. They genuinely like spending time together. Somewhere along the way people started acting like your spouse shouldn’t be your best friend. Why the hell not?

10. Secrets are cancer.

Don’t keep them. Little lies become big ones. And as my dad always says, “The truth is always easier to remember anyway.”

11. Respect him.

My parents always believed men want respect more than women often realize. Don’t belittle him. Don’t nag him. Being strong yourself doesn’t mean you have to compete with your husband.

And ultimately, do you.

I don’t know if these rules are universal. I just know what I’ve seen.

My mom and dad. Both sets of grandparents. My aunts and uncles. No divorces. Just decades of choosing each other, over and over again.

I guess I didn’t realize growing up how rare that was.

And now, as I’m about to become a mom myself, I realize something else. The person you marry isn’t just the person you build a life with.

They’re the person you build your family with.

And I can’t think of many decisions that matter more.

[Seun... @adeoluseun01]

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[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

You are more productive when you are in a happy place. You make more money when you’re happy. Optimism is an asset.

[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

An important reminder from Atomic Habits by James Clear:

“It doesn't make sense to continue wanting something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.”

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

I believe the greatest gift you can give your kids is a calm home. It’s not the big house or the best toys that stick with them. It’s a place where they feel safe. Where mistakes are met with patience. Where voices stay low. Where hard conversations are always followed by repair. Kids absorb everything. Create peace and they'll carry it for life.

[Codie Sanchez @Codie_Sanchez]

Before I was even pregnant, I asked my mom & dad for advice from raising me and my brother...

This is what they told me, maybe you'll find it useful too:

1. Your kids are not your friends. They’re yours to safeguard and support, but set rules. Biggest problem with most kids in our generation, their parents wanted to be liked not respected.

2. Psy ops are underrated. My mom had this line for whenever I got into trouble. She’d say, “When I ask you a question like this, I already know the answer. I am giving you a chance to come clean...” At which point I’d sing like a canary because I’m a scaredy cat. I found out today she rarely knew the answers. Brilliant and maniacal.

3. Always on the same page. My mom and dad rarely fought in front of my brother and I. They would never go back on the word of the other. United front to deal with us mini terrorists.

4. Make time. My dad had this silly line that is actually not silly: “You can make money, you can make a cake, but you can’t make time.” So they made allllll the time for us.

5. Four chairs. We have these four chairs in our living room, no tv. Growing up, we’d sit and debate and talk for hours. Politics. Opinions. Our days. Only thing not allowed was an opinion you couldn’t defend unemotionally. We still do this today.

6. Mi Sangre mi siempre. They’d always say, blood comes first. They meant it. I hired my brother, my dad, my mom, my cousin at times. We stick together and we may fight like hell but never in front of others.

7. Once you decide, you don’t quit. We could play any sport or instrument BUT if we committed we had to play the full year all out. No 3 lessons and quit. Taught us to choose thoughtfully and keep going even when it hurt.

8. Always call. They still pick up the phone nearly every time it’s family. My dad in a meeting will pause to answer my mom. My husband taught me this too, and I try to do the same. If they’re your first priority this is an easy way to prove it.

9. You’re not a princess, you’re a president. My dad always used to say that line. He told me this week that I lived up to it. Gutted me. He taught us we didn’t need to be saved, instead we could save ourselves and help others.

10. Hug often and seriously. If you’ve ever hugged my parents, they mean it when they do it. Such a simple, free gesture. My mom always gives you a hug and says vaya con dios... go with God. How can you not do big things with parents that hold you like that?

Just some lessons from parents I happen to think are some of the best in the world.

Moms & dads everywhere, I'm in awe of you.

Hardest job I've ever seen.

Hope I'm half as good at it as my parents were with us.

[Tola @adetolaov]

Do something that almost will kill you, at least twice a year. Something that if you fail it will be epic and if you succeed, it will be epic. To hope for opportunity is to leave your life to chance.

[Dapo Olagunju @dedapo]

- Never be too busy for family and other passions that you care about. It is your personal responsibility.
- Read widely and consistently
- Be empathetic. It fuels connection and trust
- Speak candidly, clearly, concisely, and respectfully.

[Motolani Alake @OneMotolani]

Legendary story.

[The Index Mint @TheIndexMint]

Number of People Without Access to Electricity by Country 1990-2025

[Sir J (J9) @SirJarus]

So every US state has a billionaire resident except three (Alaska, Delaware & West Virginia).

I think all the four Forbes dollar billionaires in Nigeria live in one state - Lagos.

The remaining 35 states + FCT do not have a dollar billionaire.

[Trey & Lea's Stronger Marriages @StrongMarriage5]

What's the 2-2-2-2 Rule for healthy marriages?

2 - Every two weeks go on a date.
2 - Twice a week be sexually intimate.
2 - Two times a year take a trip overnight without kids.
2 - Every two years go somewhere multiple nights without the kids.

The four 2's can bless your marriage.

[Aji Bussu Onye Mpiawa azụ 🇨🇮 @AfamDeluxo]

Choose who you marry as though your life depends on it, because it does.

[Femi Ote$ @realFemiOtedola]

The Chairman of Chairmen is in Monaco… Grand Commander of the Order of the Niger, Commandeur de la Légion d’honneur, Companion of the Order of the Star of Ghana, Michael Adeniyi Agbolade Ishola Adenuga Jr. 🙌🏾… F.Ote💲

[tyro @DoubleEph]

@Adheydayor Here you go https://t.co/wyQ4nphY7P

[Oluyomi Ojo @OluyomiOjo]

How to Unf*ck Your Life. Nine things that work whether you started with nothing or everything. Zero motivational content. https://t.co/7fvdsZpoRS

[Michael Taiwo @AskMichaelTaiwo]

Something I want every Nigerian graduate to understand about the diaspora ladder:

Rung one is getting the visa.

Rung two is the first job.

Rung three is being paid what your work is worth.

Rung four is bringing your family.

Rung five is choosing which passport your children will hold at 21.

Most people plan for rung one and get surprised by rung two through five. Every rung has different paperwork, different money, different waiting.

Walk it with a map.

[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

Global talent and quality of new immigrants

[Babájídé @Babajiide]

These are the consequences of a poor society ! The corner cutting is too much

People will cut corners and put others in harms way

[Émeka @itsdremeka]

@Echecrates Speed >>> perfect execution