Yall need to start being mean to people that are mean to YOU. Stop that bigger person shit.. Release your inner bitches or whatever Natasha Bedingfield said!
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, “Never play fair in a game where others cheat.” It doesn’t mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they’ll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.
Can we talk about how exhausting it is to be emotionally intelligent in situations that don't deserve your understanding. To see everyone's perspective when nobody is extending the same courtesy to yours. To regulate your reactions while others express everything without filter or consequence. To be the bigger person so consistently that nobody even acknowledges it requires effort. Emotional intelligence is a gift.
“you don’t owe anyone anything” is for, like, trauma survivors learning to care about themselves for the first time or whatever. it’s not for you when you’re an Awful Friend
I hate when people misconstrue something I do or say as disrespect, like I’m very direct with disrespect I wouldn’t even leave no room for you to question it
I love being around people who are working on themselves, who are developing, who are self aware. who care about others, who reflect on their behavior, who try to be better, who don't sweep things under the rug
if you're around people who can confidently speak up when your behaviour is impacting them negatively, it means they have respect for themselves, and it means they are teaching you how to love them. because they value you enough to keep you in their lives.
Saw something that said 'I don't believe in forgiving intentional wickedness' and I couldn't agree more. A lapse in judgment is one thing, but your whole intent was to hurt me, I'm good forever and I don't care who you are.
My circumstances aren’t a reflection of my worth in this world. There’s more to who I am beyond what’s happening to me. Good things have happened to me before and they’ll happen to me again. I remind myself of that and I repeat it as often as I can.
oh you’re “brutally honest” but are you ever honest about the good stuff? do you compliment people’s positive traits and behaviors? or do you only open your mouth or fix your fingers to be “honest” when you’ve got something negative on your mind
When Lauryn Hill said “it could all be so simple”she wasn't lying. Reciprocity between two people who want something to work is so simple. It's as easy as breathing.