You cannot:
Work full time, raise children, keep a spotless home, show up fully in your marriage, maintain friendships, stay fit, build wealth, read books, pursue hobbies, serve only home cooked meals, answer every email, and still make the 3:30 school pickup.
That standard was created to keep you exhausted and blaming yourself. Let it go.
“No matter how much time you spend fasting, no matter how much you sleep on a hard floor and eat ashes and sigh continually, if you do no good to others, you do nothing great.”
Pope Leo’s guide to Lent. https://t.co/5RNnO5oV9h
I came across this post about priests not giving enough time for the faithful to add their private intentions during the Prayer of the Faithful at Mass.
I know the person that made the post is not alone on this issue. I remember a parishioner who once walked up to me to ask why we do not give them enough time to finish their personal intentions at that moment.
Here is the thing: at Mass, the Prayer of the Faithful is important, but it is not the only moment for prayer (remember that in some places, the prayer of the faithful is even omitted at weekday Masses), nor the only time our intentions are meant to be offered to God. In fact, the whole Mass is prayer - a single, sacred movement of offering, thanksgiving, intercession, and communion.
Even before Mass begins, the faithful are encouraged to come prepared, already holding in their hearts the intentions they wish to place on the altar. The Mass is not something we improvise spiritually; we enter it intentionally.
There are many moments during the Mass when personal intentions can be offered:
https://t.co/veOfvDPTVk the Penitential Act, we bring before God our struggles, sins, and need for mercy.
2.During the Liturgy of the Word, the Word of God often speaks directly into our personal situations - this is a moment to silently unite our intentions with what we hear.
https://t.co/CdGHbPPSYP the Offertory, we are invited to place our lives, burdens, hopes, and intentions on the altar along with the bread and wine.
https://t.co/RIEVBpG9fc the Consecration, when Christ (through the priest) offers Himself to the Father, our intentions are most powerfully united to His sacrifice.
https://t.co/KBo0FnuEZH Holy Communion, we receive the Lord Himself - this is a privileged moment to entrust everything to Him in silence and intimacy.
6.Even after Communion, the quiet prayer that follows is deeply personal and profound.
The Prayer of the Faithful, therefore, is not meant to carry everything. It expresses the common prayer of the Church, while personal intentions quietly ride along within that larger prayer.
So yes, while a brief pause is helpful, the deeper invitation is this: learn to pray the entire Mass. When we do, we realize that God is listening - not just at one moment, but throughout the whole sacred celebration of the Mass.
Fr. Ugochukwu Ugwoke, ISch
I’m tired of being the “Omo, wetin we go come do like this?” friend.
I want to be the “I can spare this amount,it should cover 80% of what you need” friend,
I want to be “Is that all? Please send me your details” friend.
I want to be the “I know you didn’t ask,but I just sent your rent to your account, you have one less thing to worry about” friend.
I want to be a blessing to myself, those around me,even strangers.
So help me God,Amen.
Marriage exposes weak skills
Marriage has no hiding place. If you cannot talk well, it will show. If you do not know how to manage money, it will show.
If you avoid hard talks, it will show.
Love alone will not cover these gaps. Bills will come. Stress will come. Real talks will come.
Marriage exposes what you skipped learning as an adult.
It does not shame you, but it will pressure you to learn fast.
You either grow the skills, or the home stays tense.
That is the truth.
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A lady will ask you to buy something for her, hair, bag, pizza, etc. If you don’t buy it directly and decide to send her the money instead, she will most likely not buy it.
You’ll be wondering, “Thought you wanted to eat pizza, why are you transferring the money to your savings account now?” 😂😂😂
If you truly see something you like and want to get for your woman, it’s better to buy it and gift her directly. If you send her the money with the hope that she’ll get it herself, she’s moving it straight to PiggyVest.
One once called me and said she urgently needed ₦50k because she had locked all her money in a savings plan.
Nobody saves like Nigerian women. If they’re not doing Ajo, they’re locking money away with Cowrywise, Kuda, FairMoney, and others.
Funny enough, the woman you’re splurging on may even be richer than you 😂.
You people actually hate your partners. It manifests in how you relate and view relationship with them.
You dragged MummyZee for doing exactly this. You dragged the TikTok women who wake up early or wake from sleep to cook for their husbands who work hard to look after the family. Yet, you're cheering for this and asking for this kind of man. To what end? That you'll find a loving and kindhearted man whom you plan not to love?
I also do not understand the men who have a problem with this. I know most of you do not want your women to be successful and do not expect them to. That is the only way to manage your ego and feel like a man. You want to be the only successful one who pay all the bills so you can control her.
Love is sacrifice. Love is death to self. Love is putting your partner's interest first. Love is consideration. Love is kind.
This manifestation of unkindness exists in various forms:
- "I love my husband, but his money is our money, and my money is my money." No, you don't love him.
- "A man must always be 5 steps ahead of his wife no matter what." You're competing with your wife and will stifle her growth to protect your ego. That is not love.
- "I love my husband, but I can never do this for any man." You eliminate endearment to make him a nondescript in order to validate your lovelessness. "Any man" Meanwhile, it is your man you're referring to.
- "Gender roles exists for a reason. A man should not be cooking." You probably believe this because you've convinced yourself you must be 5 steps ahead and always pay the bills so you won't do any other thing in the house. But love is togetherness. You're not going to remove financial contributions and responsibilities because you're a woman. You're not going to remove domestic responsibility because you're a man.
From doing things for your man or the home and collecting back twice the money in accrued interest, to refusing to commit your finances to the home, to referring to acts of service as slavery, to demanding for love you never give, to refusing to make yourself useful at home, to frustrating your woman's career progress and financial growth to protect your insecurity, among other, it shows you people do not love your partners and do not understand what togetherness mean.