Dr Cheryl

Eldercare & dementia care expert. Inspiring hearts and minds with Age Sage coaching.

[Headquarters @HQNewsNow]

Vice President Harris: There are so many people in our country who fall in the Sandwich Generation. They're taking care of their kids and they're taking care of their aging parents. It’s just almost impossible to do it all. So I am proposing that we allow Medicare to cover in-home health care

[Science girl @sciencegirl]

The incredible transformation of a grandmother who started getting fit aged 70

📹 trainwithjoan

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[Dr Cheryl @AgingPro]

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[Matt Schnuck @mattschnuck]

In 2012 Novak Djokovic had a breakthrough in his mental game.

His insight (and what it can do for you):

As he began playing on the biggest stage - he’d have doubts at the worst moments.

Match point. Self Doubt.

Pre-breakthrough, he saw these thoughts as a major problem...As bad...As something he needed to eliminate.

“I used to freeze up whenever I made a mistake.”

His breakthrough - accepting he could not eliminate his negative thoughts and self-doubt ...Even at the worst times on the court.

Old Mindset:
I need to improve so that negative thoughts NEVER arise on the court. If doubt occurs, something is wrong.

New Mindset:
Because I am human, I expect negative thoughts to happen when the pressure is highest. When they arise I just use my tools to manage them skillfully.

Now he EXPECTS doubt to arise on the biggest stage. His insight:

“Everyone goes through these thought processes of self-doubt. I don’t think it is particularly bad. I used to think it was bad. So I was trying to ignore it or shut it down.”

“But the major transformation in a positive way for me started when I acknowledged and accepted those thoughts as part of me.”

Novak’s radical shift was to stop trying to eliminate negative thoughts. But instead to develop strategies that acknowledge his humanity and would be effective when they would inevitably arrive.

Takeaway 1:

Even the best in the world face self-doubt, often at the most inconvenient times. The goal isn’t eliminating these voices - it is finding tools to deal with them skillfully.

Takeaway 2:

Conscious breathing can be an anchor to come into the present moment when negative thoughts arrive at inconvenient moments. Practicing breathwork in low-stakes moments allows one to use this tool to move beyond negative thinking when it matters most.

Novak: “Now when I blow a serve or shank a backhand, I still get those flashes of self-doubt, but I know how to handle them.”

Mental fitness is a state of readiness.

Readiness is judged by how quickly can you recover...

It’s not about staying perfect.

It’s about practicing to be prepared.

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[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

How to live a life of happiness.

The Surfer Mentality:

When a surfer gets up on a wave, they enjoy the present moment, even though they know that the wave will eventually end.

They fully enjoy THIS wave, with the wisdom and awareness that there are always more waves coming.

There are several other applications of the metaphor:

• The surfer knows that they don't have to ride every single wave that comes their way. They have the freedom and the power to choose which waves to take, and which waves to let pass by.

• The surfer knows that 90% of the time they won't be riding any wave, but just paddling and waiting. They know that sometimes there will be long, painful periods between the waves. Sometimes so long that they may start to wonder whether there will ever be a good wave again. They are aware that patience and proper positioning is all that matters.

• The surfer knows that the only way to live is by putting themself out there in the water. You can't catch any waves sitting on the shore. There's always a risk of getting crushed by a wave, but the rewards are worth it.

• The surfer knows that sometimes a wave will crash down on them and hold them underwater. They know that they may come up for air only to be hit by another wave crashing down. They are able to weather these hits with a stoic awareness that remaining fluid will serve them better than stiffening to fight the waves.

The Surfer Mentality has broad-based applications across all of our lives.

Here are my 5 takeaways you should steal:

1. Enjoy Your Next Wave

The next time you find yourself riding a positive wave, enjoy it! Don't worry about how long it will last, when it will end, or whether you will ever ride such a beautiful wave again. Just slow down and appreciate where you are in the present. Trust that there will be more waves in the future.

2. Be Strategic About Positioning

There's a tendency to passively wait between waves—but there's so much you can do in those liminal moments to set yourself up for a better ride. Think about your positioning and how you can make tweaks or changes that will put you in an advantageous spot when a wave does come.

3. Pass on More Waves

When you're young, you want to ride every single wave. But when you catch the first wave that comes your way, you may miss the better one that came right after it. Learn to pass on more waves and wait for the right one.

4. Always Get in the Surf

There's nothing good that happens sitting on the shore. Even if it's scary, get in the water.

5. Be Like Water

When you get crushed by a wave, don't resist the water, be like the water. With grief in particular, it's ok to just be and experience it rather than trying to fight it. Let it come over you and trust that it will diminish with time.

So as you approach the days ahead, think about adopting the Surfer Mentality:

Enjoy every ride while it lasts!

[Tim Ferriss @tferriss]

On a hike in San Francisco several years ago, Matt Mullenweg (@photomatt) recommended I read “The Tail End” by Tim Urban (@waitbutwhy) on the Wait But Why blog—if you only read one article this month, make it that one. It uses diagrams to underscore how short life really is.

Here’s just one gem: “It turns out that when I graduated from high school, I had already used up 93% of my in-person parent time. I’m now enjoying the last 5% of that time. We’re in the tail end.”

Might be time for you (and me) to rethink our personal priorities.

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[Tim Ferriss @tferriss]

What are you putting off out of fear? Usually, what we most fear doing is what we most need to do. That phone call, that conversation, whatever the action might be—it is fear of unknown outcomes that prevents us from doing what we need to do. Define the worst case, accept it, and do it.

[Ashley Winter MD || Urologist @AshleyGWinter]

Estradiol 0.01% cream.
Sig: apply 1 gram nightly for 2 weeks, then 1 gram twice a week forever.
For all your menopausal patients. Every damn one. The rate of UTIs will plumet around the world.
Make your smart phrases.
Dispense liberally.

[Ashley Winter MD || Urologist @AshleyGWinter]

Yes. Unequivocally yes. Reduced UTIs. reduced antibiotics. Reduced delirium. Reduced ER visits. Reduced sepsis.

[Jack Hopkins @thejackhopkins]

From time to time, going through and looking at old pictures of yourself is a good exercise in acceptance. Once you get to 40 years old and beyond, looking at photos of the yourself from your teens…and early twenties can offer the opportunity to feel depressed. It can.

The signs of aging, by then, are becoming obvious. Your body has changed. Your face has changed. Your skin has changed. The way you move and your physical agility has changed. For most people, those aren’t desired changes.

Of course, I’d love to be able to bound out of bed like I used to. Pain free. I’d like to shave the dark black stubble off my chin that I once did. Feeling the wind in the hair I used to have would be nice, too. I could go on. Most of us have a similar list.

Yet, even if I could go back…I wouldn’t. For one thing, I was a little dumb-ass. I didn’t have the wisdom…that only comes with the passage of time, that I have now. Life is easier with wisdom. Even when some aspects of life are harder. The stupidity of youth…makes about everything more difficult than it needs to be.

Acceptance of things we can’t change is crucial for an enjoyable and pleasant life. Few things are more unchangeable than our biological and physiological experiences that result from the passing of the years.

Learn to look at that younger you, and appreciate what you had…that you might not still have today, and then run through a mental list of everything you have now….that is even BETTER than back then. There’s a lot of it. You just have to stop and think about it.

If looking back makes you feel a little sad, so be it. Embrace it. Accept it, and acknowledge that there’s next to nothing you can do about it….and feel good about your ability to accept what just “is” and be thankful for the gifts you have….NOW. #SelfReliance #Acceptance

[Dr Cheryl @AgingPro]

@sandibachom Thank you for sharing your journey. Bless you.

[Ashley Winter MD || Urologist @AshleyGWinter]

If you know anyone who is going to turn 65 soon remind them to enroll in regular Medicare & not a Medicare advantage plan. A family member recently needed acute rehab & the social workers delight at not needing prior auth bc they had straight Medicare was an excellent reminder.

[CALL TO ACTIVISM @CalltoActivism]

This 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home yesterday. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room …. just wait.”

“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;

I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away, just for this time in my life.”

She went on to explain, “Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.”

And with a smile, she said: “Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less, & enjoy every moment.

Photograph by Karsten Thormaehlen

[Dr Cheryl @AgingPro]

@SarahNauser Lovely! How did you make that happen?!

[Brian Wallach @bsw5020]

Six years ago I was told to prepare to die.

This is the improbable, inspiring, love-filled, hope-filled, true story about the extraordinary campaign that happened next.

This is where you come in: please share this trailer with everyone so that we can bring hope to everyone.

[The White House 46 Archived @WhiteHouse46]

Hearing aids are now available over the counter – helping to save 30 million Americans approximately $3,000 on a pair.

President Biden is lowering costs for American families.

[Serena Williams @serenawilliams]

The reason I started @SerenaVentures is because of these numbers. Like attracts like. Diversify. Change who is writing the checks.

[Karine Jean-Pierre Archived @PressSec46]

TODAY @US_FDA issued a final rule allowing hearing aids to be sold over the counter – without a prescription. That will lower the price of a pair of hearing aids by an estimated $2,876/pair. You’ll see them in stores as soon as mid-October.
https://t.co/1pSBa5NXg3

[CDC @CDCgov]

Did you know that there are things you can do to reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias? For example, making sure your hypertension and diabetes are properly managed and getting enough aerobic physical activity can help. Learn more: https://t.co/pNC8HObe9N.

[Naomi O'Leary @NaomiOhReally]

This is like a lesson in how to facilitate older people while honouring who they are.
What a class act by @ladygaga with legend Liza Minnelli.
The conferred whispers of "I gotcha" "I know" picked up by the mikes make it especially touching.