I’m 40. Divorced and a single mum to my neice. This is my advice to you in your 20s. My advice may mean something or not but here goes lol.
1. In your 40s, you realize how important it is to have lived life on your own terms, rather than letting societal pressures dictate your choices. I was so overwhelmed with pleasing everyone around me that I forgot about me and what made me happy. I made plans on what I thought I should be and not what I really wanted to be.
2. Many people in their 20s feel overwhelmed by the idea of getting married or finding the “right” partner, often putting their happiness or personal growth on hold in the process. I made career plans based on my age and how soon I’d want to be married. In 40s, divorced and a single mum to my neice I realize now how fleeting time is and how valuable it is to have pursued my dreams, passions, and experiences unapologetically.
3. Marriage or partnership can be a beautiful part of life, but it’s not the whole of it. The quality of your life isn’t determined by whether you checked that box in your 20s, but by whether you lived fully, cultivated meaningful relationships, pursued what lights you up, and cared for yourself holistically. Travel, read books, meet new people, have fun, educate yourself at every opportunity and let the pieces fall into place.
4. In my 40s, I now appreciate that life isn’t a race or checklist. What truly matters is that I build a life im proud of, it may not be perfect but its mine. There’s nothing I regret from my past but I wish I took on more opportunities instead of worrying so much about the future.
5. Take your physical and mental health very seriously, your 20s sets the foundation for how you age. I have been working out since I was 17, and I also took very care of my body. I see many people in their 20s who don’t think about the long-term effects of things like lack of exercise, bad eating habits, drinking, smoking or chronic stress. Over time, these small choices can lead to issues like back pain, weight management struggles, or mental burnout. BELIEVE ME ITS A REAL ISSUE.
6. More responsibilities will come, aging parents, kids, or career pressures which can be overwhelming if you haven’t built emotional resilience or healthy coping mechanisms. It’s so hard but you have to get ready for it. It’s part of life.
7. Relationships also shift, some friendships will fade, and building meaningful connections becomes more important than maintaining surface-level ones. So learn to sift through your relationships and find out who’s who now.
8. When I turned 40 I suddenly saw life differently , you realize how quickly life moves and how important it is to be intentional about your time and priorities. Investing in your health, passions, and relationships earlier can make this stage of life much more fulfilling. I am still working on it but I can say that I’m on the right path. It gets lonely sometimes but my future self would be proud of me for it.
Goodluck and I wish you well.
A dancer bends over in front of the judge to show that her underwear was too large to expose anything anatomical.
In 1983, three exotic dancers were arrested by undercover officers for violating Pinellas County’s anti-nudity ordinance.
The dancers argued that their shorts were too big to show anything. The judge ended up agreeing with the dancers and the case was dismissed.
@Ifawemimo Greetings ma'am,
I would like to know when the festival will hold.
We have a friend who is very much interested in experiencing the events of the festival.
🗣️ Carlo Ancelotti: "Kaka landed at Malpensa Airport and I put my head in my hands: Eyeglasses, hair perfectly combed, the face of a good boy.
All he was missing was schoolbooks and a snack. My god, we signed a college student. Kaka didn’t look anything like a Brazilian footballer, he reminded me of a Jehovah’s Witness.
Moggi started to send shade: ‘With that name in Italy he’s done for. At Juventus we’re all constipated. We don’t pay for Kaka’.
Then, he stepped on the pitch still jet lagged and all: the heavens opened. With the ball at his feet he was monstrous. I stopped talking simply because I was at a loss for words. Words didn’t even exist for what I was seeing.
The Jehovah’s Witness was actually someone who spoke directly with God. And, I’m sure in one of those conversations, they talked about football.
In his first challenge in training as a Milanista Kaka found himself in front of Gattuso, who gave him a terrifying shoulder barge, but Kaka didn’t even lose the ball. Rino in his own way of encouraging his new teammate said: ‘F**k off’.
Then, after keeping the ball, Kaka played a 30-yard pass, taking even Nesta by surprise who wasn’t able to intercept it.
At the end of every training [ex-Milan CEO Adriano] Galliani and I always spoke on the phone so that I could tell him what was going on, and then hear his thoughts.
That day I called him: ‘Mr Galliani, I have some news for you’. ‘Good or bad?’ ‘Good. Very good’. ‘Carletto, are you giving your resignation?’ ‘No, I’m staying, because we just signed a phenomenon’."
When Siju, the wife of Pastor Idowu Iluyomade of Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), City of David, Victoria Island, Lagos, threw an extravagant birthday party while the body of Herbert Wigwe, the church’s primary financier had not yet buried, the adverse public reaction was swift.
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