Uno de los motivos por lo que llevo años donde no he hecho el esfuerzo de ligar con mujeres es precisamente porque me da pereza tener que "impactar", "provocar algo" o "dejar huella", porque odio meter de por medio casi una cultura del esfuerzo para poder enamorarse, porque también detesto los rituales asociados a la sexoafectividad y el como este proceso parecer estar atravesado muchas veces por planteamientos casi mercantiles. Si a eso le sumo que cada vez me ha ido gustando menos sociabilizar entonces estoy bastante jodido.
Pero bueno, si algo he tenido claro es que esto no es específicamente culpa solo de las mujeres y que plantarse en la retórica de la mujer como némesis no te lleva a ningún sitio. Al menos no a uno bueno y donde merezca la pena estar. Como le está pasando ahora a muchas señoras con los hombres, que se están introduciendo en esa retórica de odio hacia el otro sexo de forma irracional, puede que cuando conozcas a alguien que si merece la pena tu propia bilis sea la que tome el mando sin darte cuenta.
I love how whenever men have a men-only group, its automatically accused of being an echo chamber of misogyny
But women demand women-only groups and to question that is misogyny.
Funny how that works. Mens groups bad, womens groups good.
Almost like it's... misandry?
You need to cheat in every aspect of your life.
When you cheat on your wife, she’ll love you more. When you cheat on a test, you pass. When you cheat in sports, you win. When you cheat in business, you win.
When you cheat with a fake resume, you get a good job.
Stop abiding by society’s rules. Society’s rules are meant to keep you broke, afraid, and cowardly.
Being lazy is such a virtue. The world has spent centuries brainwashing actual talent into treating it like a vice bcz slavery needs peasants, not independent ppl. I'm pro lazy. Be as lazy as u can be. What we subconsciously despise isn't laziness, it's being a slacker.
in conversation, to be more likeable, don't talk like u're waiting for ur turn to speak. It shows. Treat the other person as if they aren't worth unloading ur mind onto. Pretend to listen seriously, let them exhaust themselves, then decide if they're worth a real response.
Realism is actually a disease. expecting realism in an illusionary existence is the smartest form of stupidity. Coz almost everyone who accomplishes something genuinely extraordinary spends a period of their life looking completely delusional.
Not optimistic. Not confident. Purely Delusional. At least from the perspective of everyone around them.
Coz reality has a way of negotiating with most people. They begin with impossible ambitions, run into resistance, get embarrassed a few times, suffer enough failures, and eventually decide that reality must have been right all along. They stop trying to become exceptional and instead become reasonable. Ironically, they often become the exact kind of men they once quietly pitied.
I've seen this happen enough times that I no longer think reality defeats most people. Conformity does.
society in general rewards the predictable mind. A child imagines without permission. He doesn't yet know what is supposedly impossible. That innocence isn't ignorance, it's freedom from inherited limitations. The moment we become too concerned with appearing sensible, we begin outsourcing our imagination to the crowd. Then, we are left no good enough to think outside of the box.
There is, of course, a distinction that matters. Delusion detached from action is fantasy. Delusion that survives years of disciplined work becomes vision. The world usually can't tell the difference until the results appear, which is why history has a habit of rewriting "madness" into "genius."
Nearly every remarkable life looks irrational in the middle of the story.
the people around you will call it arrogance, immaturity, or denial bcz they are judging a process by an unfinished outcome. they're not entirely irrational for doing so. Most impossible dreams fail. But almost every impossible success also began in a form that looked indistinguishable from failure.
This is why I've become skeptical of advice that tells people to "be realistic." Realism is excellent for preserving what already exists. It has a remarkably poor record of creating what has never existed before.
Perhaps that is why something in us have always admired the child so much. bcz they have not yet learned to surrender their imagination to consensus. They can believe with an intensity adults mistake for foolishness.
maybe greatness requires preserving a small part of that child long after everyone else has grown into sensible adults.
because when you're committed to realism, your psychology quietly becomes dependent on society's response. You wait for the world to validate your ambitions before believing in them yourself. You're asking reality to produce something extraordinary first, so that you'll finally have permission to pursue it. But society almost never moves first. It rewards what already exists. It rarely believes in what has yet to be created.
Delusion, at least in the productive sense, reverses that relationship. You stop asking the world for evidence and start becoming the evidence yourself. You're no longer waiting for society to produce something splendid for you. You're telling society that you will produce something splendid for it. The burden shifts from reality onto your own will.
the crowd worships the known because the unknown terrifies it. every creator appears irrational before he appears visionary. The crowd calls him delusional because it cannot see beyond its own conditioning. Society recognizes greatness only after it has become undeniable. Before that, it resists it.
History quietly agrees. Almost every person who bent reality first refused to accept the consensus version of it.
The secret hack to increasing ur focus is to first exhaust ur body through physical work. Exercise, sports, labor. it doesn't matter. Most people try to tire their mind before they've tired their body. That's backwards.
I've banged 30+ girls from cold approaches and there's 2 subtle but easy ways you can tell exactly where a girls interest level is:
1)After you open and exchange a back and forth or two, ask for her name and shake her hand(brief hug or cheek kiss in some cultures), then pause for 2 seconds. See if she asks for your name back. If she doesn't, I've found that 90% of the time it's going nowhere and she's not interested.
2)After a couple mins of chatting, say you gotta get going/meet your friends/etc and suggest meeting up for a drink sometime. Watch her split second body language and verbal reaction. If she hesistates for a split second and goes "uhh, yea sure" etc 90% it's going nowhere. You want a quick yes without any hesitation.
I don't focus on daygame as my main channel to get girls, but I've done enough reps to have pattern recognition and have found these 2 things the biggest tell of whether the approach will go anywhere or not.
Bonus: also, does she ask you personal questions about yourself? That's a good sign too.
You actually sleep only when there are no dreams, often for barely a minute at a time during a sleep session. That single minute is the real meditative state. That's what revitalizes your energy and leaves you feeling refreshed. During dreams, only the senses are inactive, the mind is still at work, projecting an internal world from memories, desires, fears, and subconscious impressions. Subconscious knows everything, it can help u, solve anything, tell u anything, all during sleep, you've better access to it cause ur senses (distractions) are inactive.
List of Men against Employment:
- Adolf Hitler
- Conor mcgregor
- Muhammad Ali
- Julius Caesar
- Marcus Aurelius
- Socrates
- Arnold Schwarzenegger
- Tiger Woods
- Floyd Mayweather
- Kyrie Irving
- Plato
- Napoleon
- Alexander the Great
- Leonardo da Vinci
- Benjamin Franklin
- Thomas Jefferson
- Winston Churchill
- Steve Jobs
- Elon Musk
- Warren Buffett
- Cristiano Ronaldo
conquerors, philosophers, artists, athletes, champions — share one refusal: they would not sell their hours to another man. They worked harder than anyone, but for themselves. Employment is not the natural state of man. It is what happens when you stop believing you were built for more.”