True transformation comes when we are active daily participants in our healing.
This looks like:
-building healthy relationships
-proper sleep
-giving the body nutrient dense food
-practicing new ways of coping
-nature exposure
-understanding our patterns
Authentic friends tell the truth. They don’t stand by quietly as you self destruct. At your lowest they remind you of your capability. They challenge you and support you to be your best self.
I’m often told that it’s harder to make friends as adults, and I agree.
I also noticed that when you create a fun routine for yourself, plan your activities—don’t wait for anyone nor beg them to join, you just live your exciting life—people are gonna wanna be a part of it.
Getting out of survival patterns is a part of growing up. We have to heal, to learn to communicate, and to not expect people to coddle our dysfunction.
Women are conditioned to believe it’s a good thing to be selfless, to be easy, and to put everyone else’s needs before their own. When they end up resentful they shame themselves. Women need to break free from the cultural push for self abandonment.
Narcissism is extreme insecurity. People think people with narcissistic traits have an inflated sense of self. In reality they have no sense of self. Without a sense of self, control and external validation become the main focus. Deep down they’re terrified.
Good girl conditioning begins in childhood when we’re responsible for managing a parent’s emotions, and told its wrong to upset anyone. We learn adults are fragile, and our own needs don’t matter when they make someone uncomfortable.
Everyone has a past. You are not your past. Or your survival mode choices. Your future self is one choice away. Keep moving forward. Keep telling the truth. Keep forgiving yourself. Keep making choices grounded in your values.
The past is meaningless.
sometimes I wonder why my relationship with food is so fucked up but then I remember spending my entire childhood hearing adult women say “don’t worry we’ll walk this off”
The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse.
Intentionally punishing someone with removal of love is a coping mechanism of emotionally immature people.
It says: when you do something I don't like, I deny your very existence.