The most tiring thing about adulting to me is how CONSTANT it is. There is ALWAYS some shit to sort out. you're chilling means you're probably just ignoring the million things on your to-do list.
My friend who has visited her parents in the last 10 years for Christmas, did not go last year. She’s the first daughter, she said she decided to be selfish and use the money she’d normally distribute to the family to travel for alone time in Ghana.
When she called her mum,
Especially the good things, the big amazing breakthroughs! The love, the family, the friends, the beauty, the joy.. don't ever think it can't happen to you too!
I’ve abandoned the idea of whatever a “low maintenance” friendship is. To build deeper relationships with people you have to be present in their lives, show up for them and allow them to do the same for you.
If building a friendship with you involves…
Boundaries do not require explanation.
Kindness do not require reciprocation
Moving on doesn’t require a dramatic exit
Healing doesn’t require closure from same people who hurt you.
Let this be your reset in 2026.
People don’t realize that you can actually push someone so far that they no longer want anything to do with you anymore . This applies to friendships, relationships, or even family.
Sometimes, people assume that because you love them, whether as a friend, partner, or family member you will continue to tolerate anything, disrespect, neglect, hurtful actions , lack of effort, or emotional stress.
Everyone has limits, and there is only so much one person can take before they choose peace over connection.
Even the most patient, kind-hearted person can reach their breaking point.
When someone continuously feels unappreciated, misunderstood, or mistreated, they can reach a place where they emotionally disconnect. And once someone emotionally disconnects, it is very hard to repair that relationship.
maturing is realising that there comes a moment where you decide “this is the last time these people are going to make me feel this way,” and you actually mean it. whether it’s family, a relationship, or a friendship.
Adult friendships require grace. People are very busy. People are healing. People are growing. People are taking time for self care just like you. Less communication isn’t less love. Check in not out.