My wife and I met at a party in 2010. I don’t remember what I said to her (we were all drinking way too much), but I remember making her laugh, and how good that felt. By 2011, we were married and had a son.
In 2012, Tinder came out. And this story likely wouldn’t have happened. The life we built together, the relationship we fought to maintain, the four kids we created, none of it would be here.
Maybe I still would have gone to that party with my Marine buddies, but I would have been too busy staring at my phone—hoping that one of my long-shot swipes that weekend had led to a match—to make time to approach the woman five feet away from me in the flesh. Meanwhile, my wife (total smokeshow, of course) would have been bombarded with thousands of inbound messages every day. Where fate (and cheap beer) had brought us together in 2010, dating apps and statistical improbability would have kept us apart in 2012.
I don’t know what the solution here is. When I’m in the South and the Midwest, I still meet people in their 20s getting married to someone they met in freshman orientation or at a mixer on Greek Row. But, outside of land-grant universities in the farm belt (and churches that expressly value marriage and make a concerted effort at fostering connections between young people), these stories seem like they’re getting more rare by the year.
In their place, I meet more and more people not much younger than me who are still struggling. Many of them don’t even want to be on dating apps, after years of fruitless dates and fried dopamine receptors. But, as with the proverbial drunk looking for his missing keys under the street lamp because that’s where the light is, they don’t know where else to go.
All I know is, as a society, we need to get better about fostering real connections, real relationships, and a real sense of community. Smart phones atomized us. Social media and dating apps turbocharged it. And AI—chatbots, fake profiles all over social media, suspicion that nothing we come across in our daily lives is truly human anymore—is about to send our sense of social disconnection to the stratosphere.
@Lcplpeepee@excaliburdagr8@sharghzadeh Words cannot describe how devastating the destruction is and I am not sure if we can rectify the effects within our lifetime.
In the 1940s, Subrahmanyan Chandrasekhar was committed to his teaching role at the University of Chicago, despite being based at the Yerkes Observatory. Each week, he traveled 80 miles to teach a special course attended by only two students.
The students were Tsung-Dao Lee and Chen-Ning Yang. They proved their mentor's faith was well-placed when they both won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1957, years before Chandrasekhar received the same honor in 1983. Remarkably, this course went down in history as the only one where every attendee received a Nobel Prize, underscoring the extraordinary impact of Chandrasekhar's dedication and teaching.
📷 AIP Emilio Segrè Visual Archives, Physics Today Collection
Half of America thinks Walkable Neighborhoods are Communist
The Other Half thinks Pretty Buildings are Fascist
Both Halves plan on spending $5000 + Their Entire PTO to visit a place like this next summer.
@excaliburdagr8@sharghzadeh The largest genocide of Muslims recorded in the past 500 years has been committed by Pakistan. But I know you will deny the Bangladeshi genocide anyways so there is no point in talking about it.
@Colin_d_m After reading Power Broker, it is still crazy to me that someone who is so smart can be so stupid at the same time. A little bit of common sense could have gone a long way.
@Asuka_8217@mohandxs@lbnBattuta I agree, I have met good Saudi Arabians, but tell and call out your fellow people when they say derogatory things like this. This rhetoric is unacceptable and contributes to your negative perception abroad.
Just saw something wild…
5’6 dude absolutely DOMINATING the dance floor. Legit insane moves.
5 minutes later he’s making out with an absolute smoke. Not a good looking dude at all
Meanwhile the tall dudes are standing around doing the head nod with a beer in their hand.
Dancemaxxing might be the next frontier, gents.
DANCEMAXXING SZN
@mohandxs@lbnBattuta This is why nobody likes Saudi Arabia. It is not because of your religion or ethnicity, it is because you lack basic human decency and values, and that is why the western world absolutely despises people like you.
I find this concept really funny. Just imagine 80% of Saudi's workforce expelled
The next day, you go to the average Saudi. A man named Abdulaziz with a goatee and a BMI of 34. All he knows is his maid, McDonald's, and charging his phone.
He now has to build the skyscraper...