The smarter you get, the less you overthink: you know there is an opportunity cost in every thought, that you can waste years ruminating about things that will never happen, that if you want peace of mind, you need to live less in your mind, start acting, and get more things done
My dads an incredibly smart man.
•Great leader
•Can fix anything
•Socially strong & networks well
•Read a book a week for 30 years
He NEVER moved up in his company.
I asked him WHY & the answer he gave me brought me to tears.
Here’s the best lesson my dad ever taught me.
Chris Rock goes to a place called “Stress Factory.”
It’s a comedy club in New Brunswick, New Jersey.
For Rock, it’s a proving ground.
He’ll show up unannounced.
In the audience may be 50 people.
He’ll carry a yellow legal pad of notes and go on stage for 45 minutes.
And he’ll test new material.
Rock will do this for *months* as he prepares for a new show.
• He’ll fumble through lines
• He’ll stop in the middle of jokes
• He’ll write notes while talking
Sometimes, he’ll forget what he’s saying and reference his legal pad.
If you didn’t know him, you’d think he’s an amateur.
This is how he becomes the guy you see on Netflix.
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Lesson: Nobody’s a finished product
Rock is one of the highest-paid comedians in the world.
He’s a legend in his industry.
He’s an otherworldly comedic talent.
You’d expect him to always be polished.
But that’s not the case.
Even legends are on the hunt to improve.
There’s no such thing as a “finished product.”
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Lesson: It takes humility to be great
Audiences at Stress Factory get Rock in his rawest form.
• They get new jokes he hasn’t tried yet
• They get to see him honing his craft
• They get to see him struggle
Rock doesn’t have to do this.
He could work out ideas in front of a few friends, then take more polished stuff to an audience.
But that likely wouldn’t make him as good.
If you want to be great, you need the humility to look bad in front of strangers.
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Lesson: The process never ends
How many jokes has Rock delivered in his life?
100,000? More?
At 57 years old, he’s had a *lifetime* of reps.
And yet, here he is randomly showing up at small clubs.
Over and over and over and over again.
It reminds me of a quote:
“Success is not a continuum.”
The past doesn’t guarantee the future.
We’re not entitled to future success.
It must be repeatedly earned.
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People assume your gentleness must have come from an easy life. They don't know you walked through the darkness alone and transformed your pain into power, your wounds into wisdom, the mistreatment of others into boundaries, and your generational curses into blessings.
I’m an idiot. I’ve always paid my mortgage monthly. The bi-weekly idea had crossed my path several times. I’ve even advocated it. But I never did it. And I’m an idiot. On a 30 year loan it’s cuts off 6 years of payments. 20% of the entire cost! Just by splitting payment in half
Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I try to remind myself: No one has any idea what the hell they’re doing.
Some people are just better at putting on a brave face and marching forward into the unknown.