Orange Book 🍊📖

Thoughts triggering thoughts. No label required. Learning on the go. Novel in progress. Public feed: general musing. Private feed: Tokyo diary.

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True wealth mostly has to do with who you are lucky to spend your days with.

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You can't be a good parent as long as you refuse to face your own insecurities and fix them first; otherwise, you just end up like too many parents who are actually constantly judgmental and dismissive regardless of how "loving" they are, and who completely fail when it comes to nurturing confident and mentally healthy kids.

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A lot of unpleasant social interactions suddenly make sense when you realize that people disliking you “for no reason” often means that you have something that they don’t want to admit that they want.

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The most important and difficult part of a long-lasting successful career is to have your private life in order.

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Every genuine question sounds like a personal attack when you are insecure.

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It’s much harder to build a loving family than a successful business; the latter mostly requires intelligence, the former requires so much more.

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A wealthy childhood begins with two parents who respect, trust, and love each other.

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Nothing smothers talent like spending a lot of time around insecure people who automatically assume that what they can achieve is what you can achieve, but fortunately, it’s always your choice whether to believe them or not, and it’s also your choice whether you stay around.

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If you don’t like energy-wasting conflicts, the solution is not to avoid all relationships and isolate yourself altogether; the solution is to hang out with smarter and reasonable people who actually care about finding a long-term sustainable solution, they don’t get emotionally reactive and dramatic, they don’t get offended about being proved wrong, and it feels effortless and actually revitalizing to be around them.

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Marriage is actually simple if it involves two people of equivalent intelligence and emotional maturity who are capable of leaving their ego and insecurities aside in order to make the fact-based right decisions that benefit everyone.

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People don't realize how wealthy they were until they get sick; they don't realize how much someone mattered until they mistakenly burn the bridge; they don't realize how privileged they were until they start over alone and with no money in a country where they don't speak the language; and they don't realize how much free time they had until they start raising kids.

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It becomes obvious once you have kids how so many parents can unfortunately end up "neglecting" their kids;

the most important thing that you can do for them is to be present, physically, emotionally, mentally; and we live in a world where as they get older, the poor only get more and more overwhelmed by life, and it's tremendously difficult to just revert that trend once you are no longer living on your own timing, let alone having the time to invest in yourself and taking risks;

and on the other side of the spectrum, the rich don't necessarily become better parents, because we don't live in such a fairy tale of a society that you can afford to relax and still remain competitive in whatever you strive to be the best at; and as a result, they outsource as much as they can, and end up spending way less time with their kids than they could have, and in retrospect, should have.

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Feeling rejected or even humiliated once in a while is actually very healthy in the long run; you should actually start worrying if every day is painless and uneventful.

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Your kids learn from who you are, not from what you say; if you want them to be intellectually curious, mentally strong, emotionally mature, physically healthy, and spiritually connected with themselves with a clear sense of purpose, you just need to embody all of the above first.

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The less you know about celebrities, gossips, news that are completely unrelated to your life, and the better your mental health, your relationships, your career, your long-term wealth, because it means you've been properly focused on what matters: your own life.

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Cynicism is a natural reaction that happens when you feel powerless in front of a situation and want to minimize the pain; it’s a form of cope for people who aren’t living life on their own terms and who want to sound smart nevertheless.

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People feel anxious because they are constantly feeding themselves with the highlights of the most successful people out there, when they should actually turn off their feed, focus on themselves, nurture the relationships they already have, take some risks, actually start living.