Father, learner, leadership coach. Calmly building capacity and commitment, and a way of being in the world that creates contribution, value and meaning.
@Codie_Sanchez is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; Theodore Roosevelt
@hubermanlab And to Cal's point, stress is necessary... For a time. But then you have to rest/reset... Keep the rubber band at full stretch for too long, and she's going to blow!
@hubermanlab Great discussion gents! Working with a colleague earlier (kudos to Iain Chalmers of FlowProfiler), we shared the context that a great definition of "Flow" is when you are stretched, but not stressed.... This distinction has helped me (a recent "burnout survivor") enormously.
Saying "This is how I react when you..." not only empowers you, but it also opens the door for constructive dialogue. It turns a potential blame game into an opportunity for mutual growth. This is a subtle but important nuance to Marshal Rosenberg’s OFNR framework.
Some things I wish I would have learned in school:
Hard work AND rest
Self-discipline AND self-compassion
Solitude AND community
Mind AND body
You are enough right now AND you can get better
Happiness AND sadness
Strength AND flexibility
Not either-or, but hold both at once.
@PeterAttiaMD Hi Peter. I live in Brisbane, east coast of Australia. If I lived in the USA, I'd be banging on your door to do a full screening after reading your book. Would you know any doctors over here in Australia that are worth me looking up if I want to go on a Medicine 3.0 journey? 🙌
Other people's expectations are not your obligations.
Responsibilities are commitments you choose to make. Upholding them is a key to taking care of others.
Expectations are pressures others impose on you. Rejecting them is often necessary to take care of yourself.
Routines can be magical, but there is no magic routine! What works for one person might not work for others. This is problematic for those in the cult of routines, especially those looking to make a buck selling their own! (Credit to @Bstulberg)
When people share their problems, they're not always looking for solutions. They're often seeking support.
Sharing bad news may not make them feel better, but it does bring you closer.
The most basic form of compassion is not alleviating distress. It's acknowledging distress.
@andycrissinger Hi Andy. Tried to DM you but it looks like you (or Twitter) has blocked that channel? Can you share a link or details? Warm regards, Andrew
Is it just me, or does it seem like everyone is trying to yell over everyone else how to "behave in a crisis" ? It's deafening! Thankfully, a picture is worth a thousand words... (Credit to @SusanDavid_PhD)