it feels so stupid! I need to do a bunch of things that I know I'm very much capable of doing, and I just can't! and I can't do anything about it, trying harder just makes it all worse!
y’all need to start making new experiences, you’re lost in routine and when routine happens your brain is just gonna conflate one day with another and everything moves faster cause it’s all the same. find new things, take a different route home. wander somewhere like idk
how to strangermaxx:
- best place to initiate convo is where people generally linger. this can be in line, at coffee shops, after a yoga class, etc. there needs to be an element of slowness so you can easily strike up a convo
- wouldn't recommend starting with 'hi' - that can be offputting and there isn't much to do that with that. you'll want an easier intro line
- my favorites intro lines are almost as though you're letting them into your inner monologue like:
- "I can't decide between X or Y (on the menu)"
- "have any favorites that you order here? I want to try something new"
- *comment on a product they're holding or wearing*
- "wow that yoga class was so great today - I have to come again"
- after you say this, you can usually sense their appetite for connection. if they feel warm and friendly, you can keep it going - "have you been here before?"
- typically the conversation starts flowing from here!!
- sometimes people aren't in the mood to chat and that's no biggie - you still got a nice quick interaction of the day. sometimes the conversations will go on longer and it can lead to a really wonderful interaction!
- i'd encourage you to stay a *little* extra longer than you typically would. fight through the initial discomfort so that you can increase your appetite for this type of convo - repeat this whole process a few times to increase comfort with this!
you'll start to realize that people are EXCITED to talk to you!
strangers aren't as scary as they seem!
and you'll start living a life thats more open and fun!
i would perhaps be more sympathetic to arguments like "it's just regurgitating sentences that kind of sound like reasoning, not actually making valid deductions" if it were not an incredibly well verified empirical fact of psychology that this is also exactly what humans do
many ppl on this site: "remember, there's no such thing as an outgroup child, so if your child joins the outgroup it's all the outgroup's fault for tricking and manipulating them. it's your duty as a parent to beat the outgroup out of them and if you don't you're outgroup too."