my bro who divorced 2 weeks ago told me this:
“all of us are selective sinners. we choose the sin we are comfortable with, and judge others that commit the ones we are not comfortable with.”
The actual research is wild. Every time you push down a feeling, your brain has to choose between suppressing that emotion and recording what’s happening around you. It picks the suppression. The memory doesn’t get saved.
A 2000 Stanford study confirmed this: people told to hide their emotions while watching a film remembered far fewer details than people who just reacted naturally. Suppressing emotions uses up mental energy, and that leaves less brain power for saving new memories.
Brain scans show why. A 2012 study found that suppression quiets the hippocampus (your brain’s memory-recording center) right when it should be saving information. The two brain regions that normally team up to lock in memories stop talking to each other.
Over time it gets worse. Suppression keeps cortisol (the stress hormone) elevated, and cortisol shrinks the hippocampus. Chronically stressed people can lose 10 to 15% of its volume. Just three weeks of high cortisol can shrink the tiny connection points between brain cells by about 20%. The good news: studies show this shrinkage can partially reverse once stress levels drop. Not necessarily permanent.
A Finnish study of 1,137 older adults tracked over roughly a decade found that habitual emotion suppressors had nearly 5x the risk of developing dementia, even after controlling for genetics, smoking, obesity, and education.
There’s a better way to handle emotions that doesn’t cost you your memory. It’s called cognitive reappraisal: instead of bottling the feeling, you reframe what’s causing it. (“This meeting isn’t a threat, it’s practice.”) A 2003 Stanford/UC Berkeley study found reappraisers had more positive emotion, better relationships, and higher wellbeing. Suppressors got the opposite on every measure. And reappraisal carries zero memory cost.
The difference comes down to timing. Suppression kicks in after the emotion has already fired, so your brain is fighting its own response while simultaneously trying to record the moment. Reappraisal changes how you interpret the situation before the emotion fully activates. Same event, same person, but your hippocampus stays free to do its actual job: recording your life.
An Ananda Alert has been activated for 14-year-old Kemelia Powell of Sunrise Crescent in St. Andrew, who has been missing since Monday, December 15.
She is of dark complexion, slim build and is about 152 centimetres (5 feet) tall.
Reports from the Constant Spring Police indicate that Kemelia was last seen at home at about 5:00 p.m., wearing a white blouse, a peach tunic, white socks, and a pair of black shoes. Efforts to contact her have proven futile.
Anyone with information on the whereabouts of Kemelia Powell is asked to contact the Constant Spring Police Station at 876-924-1421, the 119 police emergency number, or the nearest police station.
Thirty-six-year-old Judicia Isaacs and her daughters, 6-year-old Aliyah Spence and 7-month-old Ariana Spence, all of Chantilly, Savanna-la-mar in Westmoreland, have been missing since Sunday, November 22.
Isaacs is of dark complexion, medium build, and about 173 centimetres (5 feet 8 inches) tall. Aliyah is of a dark complexion, with a slim build.
Reports from the Savanna-la-mar Police are that at about 10:00 a.m., Isaacs left home with her daughters. Isaacs was last seen wearing a red jeans pants, a multi-coloured striped blouse and a pair of cream slippers. Her daughters’ mode of dress is unknown. All efforts to locate them have proven futile.
Anyone knowing the whereabouts of Judicia Isaacs, Aliyah Spence and Ariana Spence is asked to contact the Savanna-la-mar Police at (876) 955-2536, the 119 Police Emergency number or the nearest police station.
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