Do you know that one of the most exhausting, invisible tax on the male psyche is that society views them as a default threat until proven otherwise.
From the time they hit puberty, men are forced to spend their entire lives silently managing the anxieties of everyone around them. They cross the street at night, soften their voices, shrink their physical presence, and meticulously monitor their own body language just so they don't accidentally intimidate someone.
We demand that men be big, capable, and dangerous enough to protect us from the world, but we actively penalize them for occupying space. The absolute exhaustion of walking through your entire life knowing you are presumed guilty, dangerous, or toxic just for existing in a male body is a crushing psychological weight that nobody ever acknowledges. Men are forced to actively perform "harmlessness" every single day just to be allowed to exist peacefully in public, and they do it in complete silence.
We were in the car after a long day, both of us exhausted. He was on the phone with a friend through the speakers, and they were talking about life, work, stress… all of it.
At one point his friend joked, “Man, marriage must be tiring.”
Without even thinking, he said, “Nah. Marriage isn’t tiring. Life is tiring. My wife is the part that makes it worth it.”
I froze in the passenger seat.
He kept driving like he didn’t just shift my entire world with one sentence.
Later that night I asked him if he really meant it.
He looked at me confused and said,
“Of course. You’re not my responsibility. You’re my reward.”
And I swear, in a world where people talk about marriage like it’s a burden…
He talks about it like he won the lottery.
And that’s all the reassurance I’ll ever need.
a therapist said that sometimes being a loner is a trauma response. you’re so use to people you love not showing up for you or walking away or you may have grown up in a toxic environment. that the only one you could depend on was YOU! so you naturally feel safe when you’re alone
so much of adulthood is just grieving in secret. grieving ex lovers, grieving dead friendships, grieving your parents sinking into old age, grieving the person you thought you'd grow into. grieving cities you never got to live in. grieving parts of you that couldn't survive.
@NoMansSky A few friends and I play NMS a good bit. We were wondering if there's any future plans on being able to change the color of the ships in the game?