women get overly romantic ideas about relationships from reading books like pride & prejudice. we need a romance novel about two people who don't have a spark at first, who both have to change in order to be ready for love
Recently froze my eggs, and the estrogen megadose it required briefly made me into a completely different (meaning hornier, and cuter, and gayer) person, so I wrote a trip report about it.
Link in bio!
Lena Dunham refusing to go on Ozempic is much more Nietzschean than anything any of those large accounts on here who periodically wheel her out to give her a predictable kicking when they need to juice engagement has ever done.
The problem with Lena Dunham is she wants to be loved as an icon & can’t appreciate being hated as a prophet. The icon is loved then quickly forgotten. The prophet is hated & exiled & reduced to eating locust in the desert but you die vindicated, that used to be enough.
some examples:
-you seek sexual validation from multiple sources rather than depth with one
-you use your sexuality to meet non-sexual needs (eg: safety, attention, power)
-you perform desire instead of feeling it
-you can't contain or channel your sexual energy—it leaks out sideways
Estrogen/testosterone are biochemically linked, you're unlikely to see elevated levels of one without the other (in either males or females). As discussed in the article, a lot of testosterone's famous psychological effects are actually the result of testosterone/estrogen feedback loops.
@animalologist Yeah I think men in their mid-30s often have complexes about their age, and project onto women their same age (who do legitimately face more urgent biological clocks), while trying to validate their youth by dating younger. I also think Gen Z is just looser about this stuff.