I am currently a Graphic Designer in Atlanta, GA. I was an Art Historian and have worked at the MET in NYC, PGC in Venice, Italy and the HMA in Atlanta, GA.
My self-esteem has taken hit after hit this year, from heartbreak, to grief, to my entire body changing, I have not felt the most confident at all. The only thing that saves me, is knowing that I cannot wait on my confidence to create the life I want. I have to show up regardless
THIS IS GOING VIRAL SO I WANTED TO SHARE IT HERE TOO:
A bit from my past:
My first job after getting my PhD was working as a therapist for people from low socioeconomic backgrounds.
Almost all of them were diagnosed with depression, GAD, bipolar, or BPD. Most were highly medicated— some to a point that still sticks with me years later.
As I got to know their background and lives 3 things were very clear:
1. A vast majority had been emotionally neglected, emotionally abused, or physically abused as children.
2. A vast majority had experienced domestic violence or were currently living in it.
3. Basic needs were never met. Life was an hour by hour struggle. Treatment was an attempt to allow them to get to work in most cases. To just continue to surviving.
It was the start of me questioning the field I had been trained in. One that diagnoses people with disorders without taking a look at the whole picture. It began my path of holistic understanding.
A person cannot be well when one unexpected bill will have them fall behind on rent. When they lay their head on a pillow and all they can think about is expenses piling up. When a bill at the grocery store is almost double what they paid last year when their income has stayed the same.
An entire family unit deeply struggles within survival mode. When a job is lost. When daycare needs to be paid, but so does the light bill— what do you choose? When parents can’t even think about the emotional needs of their children because they have to figure out where their next meal is going to come from.
In 1942, 10 years before the diagnostic manual of mental illness was released Maslow knew what was once just common sense: we have a hierarchy of needs.
At the bottom are basic needs food and shelter. Then safety (resources, security). Then belonging (connection, friendship, intimacy.) Without three things we *will* be sick, period.
I get pushback for questioning the status quo. And I’ll continue to do it. The status quo is keeping people sick. It denies their experience. And it says we should bandage people’s symptoms so they can return to the environment that made them sick.
May we wake up, heal ourselves, and build conscious communities to help each other.
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Anything you miss out on as a result of being authentic to your energy is protection. Turn your back on it in celebration that you lost what was going to make you lose yourself.
Affirm:
I am living a life of abundance. Everything I need is always provided to me right when I need it. I always have more than enough. Money, success, love, friendships, and joy all pour into my life with ease. I am a magnet for all the things I desire.
Self-love is like building your own dream car
Set boundaries as the GPS, self-respect as the engine, and self-compassion as the comfy seats.
Avoid the detours of self-sabotage, put happiness on cruise control, and prioritize your needs at the wheel.
Drive on, champ!
Imagine what would change if you started believing in yourself. You would begin to act differently, make different choices and ultimately get different results. I pray you start believing in yourself today!
"No one will hit you harder than life itself. It doesn't matter how hard you hit back. It's about how much you can take, and keep fighting, how much you can suffer and keep moving forward. That's how you win." - Sylvester Stallone
We don't need to get back to people immediately. The idea that we should be in constant communication can be toxic in relationships.
Here's how to break free:
The Feynman Technique for learning anything:
Step 1: Identify a topic
Step 2: Explain it to a 5-year-old
Step 3: Study to fill in knowledge gaps
Step 4: Organize, convey, and review
True genius is the ability to simplify, not complicate.
Simple is beautiful.