Almost everyone you meet is insecure, overwhelmed, and under-encouraged.
Resist telling people how disappointed you are in them. Everyone already knows they fall short.
Instead, show compassion. Be curious and kind. People are starved for this.
As we all grieve the immense loss of actor James Earl Jones (Star Wars, The Lion King), I wanted to celebrate one his funnier milestones, reading Letterman’s best Top Ten List, reciting commercial jingles with his spectacular, powerful, booming voice. #RIPJamesEarlJones
Forming & sustaining family is the work of generations--not just those generations to come. Much like inherited wealth, inherited relational stability is a resource that allows you to invest into future relational stability.
Psalm 18 was part of my Bible reading this morning. It’s one of my very favorite psalms but I got to verse 43 & the 1st part of it sent me into considerable thought.
“You have freed me from the feuds among the people…”
There’s so much I miss about my old life. So much still brings me to tears. So much still so dear and precious to me. Oh mercy, the women I have loved and gotten to serve. But I didn’t realize how utterly exhausting and erosive to the soul the constant feuding in the SBC was till I started recovering from it.
Now what you must understand before you characterize all southern Baptist churches by this is that many exist outside the feuding because they either ignore or are uninvolved in convention matters. I have dear friends who still to this day do not understand why I left because they & their SBC churches don’t get into convention politics. I get it.
Goodness knows I didn’t mean to get into them. But we are held accountable for knowledge and I was in so deep that I knew too much. I’d like to thank social media for that.
I’m pretty much outside that circle these days. Even when I see convention people draw my name into the controversies, I shake my head and whisper, I’m not your girl.
I just want to say this morning that being part of constant feuding will cost your soul a fortune that you may not realize you paid until your early grave. I’m not talking now about any denomination or any particular organization. I’m talking in general. It can be inside your home or your workplace or extended family. Or inside your own soul. Maybe you have motivated yourself for years with conflict. You need a fight to keep your blood flowing.
It will make you sick, is what I’m trying to say. Constant feuding. It will make you sick not only to be part of it but to try to be the peace keeper in it. I’m not a psychologist. I speak strictly as a fellow person of faith. As a reader of Scripture. We don’t always have to leave an environment to step out of its constant feuding. We can just determine that we’re not going to be part of the poison anymore.
Just saying if this speaks to you this morning, I offer Psalm 18:43 as wording for a plea to the Lord.
Free me, my Lord and my God, from the feuds among the people.
FREE ME before it kills me.
The peace of the Lord be with you, my friend. And, boy, do I mean that literally this morning.
@Majormadd He’s talked, but I need policy info, not talking points. He also doesn’t answer questions. Again, he talks, but doesn’t answer the questions - he repeats talking points, spouts a lot of gibberish and doesn’t stay on topic. It’s not helpful. 🤷🏻♀️
The last time “The Last Supper” was in the news cycle was in “Da Vinci Code” (remember? I got many letters from pastors very concerned about the scandal of culture, ready to boycott) days. I wrote about it (how this masterpiece rises above, literally, our limited viewpoints). It happens to be in the revised 15th year edition of “Refractions: A Journey of Faith, Art and Culture” @NavPress coming out in August. You can access the earlier version of this essay here: https://t.co/e5xRsRlad8
@courtneyellis 5 yo - Roxaboxen by Alice McClerran - adventures in imagination
8 yo - My Side of the Mountain by Jean Craighead George - city boy runs away to live in the woods
@courtneyellis 11 yo - Carry On, Mr. Bowditch by Jean Lee Latham: historical fiction; life @ sea & navigation
8 yo - Rascal by Sterling North - boy & raccoon
Gone Away Lake by Elisabeth Enright - fantasy adventure
11 & 8 yo - Old Yeller by Fred Gipson - classic
@NevinLawrence Your kids are missing out. Conflict resolution, emotional regulation, rejoicing with those who rejoice, weeping with those who weep, social boundaries, what it means to put others first when you don’t get along, working w/people w/different backgrounds & beliefs.
@NevinLawrence Have problems sustaining friendships, family & employment. Social boundaries are real and social skill & experience opens doors to opportunities socially, professionally and ministerially. 5/5
@NevinLawrence Without it there will be difficult times ahead in family life, work life & social life. Everyone understands when kids miss social cues they haven’t yet learned. When adults miss social cues they can hurt those around them, themselves, be ineffective at their jobs & hobbies & 4/