“The fact is, when we truly stare down reality, we prepare ourselves to act in ways that allow us to endure and survive extraordinary hardship. We train ourselves how to survive before the fact.” Diane Coutu
@hbukomeko “More than education, more than experience, more than training, a person’s level of resilience will determine who succeeds and who fails. That’s true in the cancer ward, it’s true in the Olympics, and it’s true in the boardroom.” People will persevere and overcome.
A 24-year-old Polish tennis player arrived in Paris last week ranked 114th in the world, with no sponsors, no guaranteed income, and no certainty she could even pay for her hotel room.
She had to win three qualifying matches just to enter the French Open main draw. Prize money is only paid at the end of the tournament, so a Polish sports drink brand quietly stepped in and covered her hotel bill.
Her name is Maja Chwalinska. And today, she plays in the French Open final.
Before this tournament, she had won exactly one Grand Slam main draw match in her entire career. She had battled depression so severe that in 2021 she couldn't get out of bed. She underwent knee surgery in 2022. She spent years grinding through small tournaments across Europe just to stay afloat.
Then she arrived in Paris, won three qualifiers, and kept winning. Zheng Qinwen. Elise Mertens. Maria Sakkari. Diana Shnaider. Nine straight matches. One set dropped.
She is now the first qualifier in French Open history to reach the final. The last time a qualifier reached a Grand Slam final, it was Emma Raducanu at the 2021 US Open. Raducanu won.
By simply making the final, Chwalinska has earned more prize money than her entire career combined. The runner-up cheque alone is $1.6 million. If she wins today, she takes home $3.25 million.
One week ago she couldn't pay for her hotel room.
The crowd loves the man who confesses weakness until his weakness makes them uncomfortable. Then they call him unstable. Do not outsource your healing to spectators. Build privately. Return with proof. Respect is easier to restore with evidence than explanation. Always. Prove it.
Le vieux du quartier m’a dit : « N’oublie pas que la boussole a été inventée avant l’horloge parce que la direction est plus importante que le temps. »
The most powerful response to disrespect is not rage. Rage tells them they found the button. It is not a speech. Speeches tell them you still want approval. The most powerful response is a clean withdrawal. Less access. Less warmth. Less availability. No announcement. A new version of you they can no longer access.
Nobel Prize winning economist Kenneth Arrow wrote about "learning by doing" decades ago. He knew that productivity and expertise improve through experience.
The messy, repetitive works is often where you learn the patterns that eventually become judgment. Knowledge can be taught, but judgement is built through lived experience.
The first draft you rewrite. The customer call you listen to. The bug you fix and fix again. The factory floor you walk.
Small decisions you make every day teach you judgement. And, judgement is the thing everyone wants from senior people in the workplace. If we automate away every entry-level task without replacing the learning loop, we are removing a part of the process that creates experts.
The goal should be to use AI to accelerate learning, remove friction, and give people better tools to build expertise faster.
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Thanks @Fortune & @tbove4 for sharing this story. Link in the comments.
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You lose authority when you make your hunger too visible. People do not fear a man who needs to be chosen, forgiven, understood or included. They negotiate him downward. The strongest posture is not arrogance. It is the calm proof that you can survive exclusion alone.
Powerful and true. You should always listen to people you respect, but you have to make your own decisions.
My parents often told me that I never listened. I told them that was not true. I always listened very carefully, but I always made my own decisions.
You have to live your own life.
i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and almost always from:
• getting humiliated
• showing up terrified and doing it anyway
• admitting you might be the problem
A friend of mine used to say: “Show up on time, with a good attitude, and do what you said you’d do. That’s it. That’s 90% of winning in life." The older I get, the more I realize just how right he was.
Underrated life advice: Make yourself easy to root for. Be kind. Be reliable. Celebrate other people’s wins. Work hard without complaining. Carry good energy into rooms. You'll be shocked by how many doors open for you by making life better for others.
"Until death, all defeat is psychological." - Marcus Aurelius
Refuse everything that would lead most people to give up.
Refuse it.
Rise from the dead 1000 times.
Commit to never stay down & never give up.
Everything you want is on the other side of struggle.
“I believe in one wife, but life happened.”
At his thanksgiving ceremony, Jacob Oboth-Oboth openly introduced his two wives, saying he is not embarrassed by his family situation after circumstances led him into a second marriage.
it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself
You build competence not for recognition, but for independence, because the more capable you become, the less you rely on other people’s approval, direction, or permission to move forward in your life.