Avery

Wife of an amazing man. Mother of several children, Christian, Desiring to live and encourage Healthy femininity and Masculinity in Kingdom families.

[Avery @averylady85]

@Corbienest Me too!!!!

[Avery @averylady85]

@cherpers @GiffLasta @iky_fwjett This is perfect!!!

[Avery @averylady85]

@GiffLasta @iky_fwjett He doesn't want to say "sorry" because he doesn't want to be locked in to kissing her every morning. It would be interesting to know how many men consistently kiss or hug their wives "bye" in the morning, if they aren't asleep.

[Avery @averylady85]

@GiffLasta @iky_fwjett He should have said "Why does it make you sad?"

[Monica Almaguer @MonicaMAlmaguer]

Men, you wonder why your wife isn't as interested in sex as much as you? Well sir...her testosterone is a sliver of yours. That expectation defies biology.

[Mitochondrial Eve @tardwife4life]

@justalexoki Don't do this if you're a Puritan!

[Avery @averylady85]

@WestsideLAGuy They should read the book for sons by @GiffLasta

[Rob B. Kowalski @man_of_options]

If polygyny is such a problem, explain this: I can legally sleep with countless women, impregnate them, and even legally abort those babies. I can engage in every kind of sexual deviance society deems ‘acceptable,’ no matter how damaging or unnatural. But the moment I want to protect, provide for, and honor more than one woman in marriage, it’s illegal?! How is that aligned with morality, logic, or God’s design? The issue isn’t sin... it’s control. Make it make sense.

[Avery @averylady85]

@tardwife4life Every Mom needs a group of friends that will agree to mutually inconvenience each other on a regular basis. Especially if there is a lack of Grandparents.

[Avery @averylady85]

@stephmurrayyyy I have 6 kids -( 15 - 3 ).
My advice -
1. be the kind of person you want your kids to be.
2. Visit with them a lot
3. Read to them
4. Don't over-Mother teenage sons
5.capsule wardrobes, not tons of clothes
6. Have lots of hot sex with their Dad and eat dark chocolate

[Avery @averylady85]

@stephmurrayyyy I have 6 kids -( 15 - 3 ).
My advice -
1. be the kind of person you want your kids to be.
2. Visit with them a lot
3. Read to them
4. Don't over-Mother teenage sons
5.capsule wardrobes, not tons of clothes
6. Have lots of hot sex with their Dad and eat dark chocolate

[Avery @averylady85]

@mrsmeganeverly Paul most definitely held Sarah up as a model to women in the New Testament. Her husband made the "Hall of Faith."

[Rob B. Kowalski @man_of_options]

Know what would fix that? Stop falsely telling men that it is a sin to marry more than one woman. If the men women want were actually incentivized instead of punished by an unbiblical restriction, the men with all the options would step up to the plate and start marrying women. Problem solved.

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

Wives need to know that husbands often need respect for the burden they feel, even when they are imperfectly carrying it.

A good husband feels the weight of responsibility for the household.

When things feel unstable, he often moves toward trying to create structure.

That can come out awkwardly or too bluntly, but the impulse underneath it is often protective, not hostile.

If wives can learn to ask, “What problem do you think we’re trying to solve?” it can transform the tone of the conversation.

A husband who is trying to lead may not yet have the right words, the right tone, or the right system.

But if every attempt is met with instant defensiveness, mockery, shutdown, or emotional escalation, many men will either become passive or harsh.

Neither helps a marriage.

A wife does not strengthen her marriage by forcing her husband into discouragement.

She strengthens it by helping bring out his best.

That means seeing and affirming what is good in him, even while helping refine what is immature.

Grace builds on nature.

Encourage the good movement already there, and help it mature into virtue.

[Avery @averylady85]

A woman's sexuality is a direct response to her man's virility and vitality. There is a reason all the romances use those words

[Avery @averylady85]

If men preach to women about having sex, they will respond to God's Vitality, not yours, and the best they can do is duty sex.

[Avery @averylady85]

@jtcope4 Seduce your woman and satisfy her thoroughly, and maintain her well.

[Avery @averylady85]

Absolutely true!!!!

[Rob B. Kowalski @man_of_options]

One of the unintended consequences of the false monogamy-only doctrine:

The very men capable of landing and leading multiple women well are forced to suppress it… until it blows up into a public scandal.

Or they skip the church entirely, join the manosphere, and whore around.

Either way, the church loses them.

[Avery @averylady85]

Love this!!

[Julie_married_to_Thomas_but_not_a_Thomist @gmk_julie]

A Woman's Load

She is trusted by her husband and deals bountifully with him. She searches, works, brings, rises, gives, invests, makes plans, and plants, and does so with delight. She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She is confident in her abilities, generous with her resources and fearless of the future. She is prepared, industrious, strong, majestic, wise, instructive, and kind. She watches well over all the ways of her household. And she does all this out of a genuine fear and love of the Lord.

This, according to Proverbs 31, is the load the Christian woman is called to bear, not as a burden, but as a blessing. And she does all this as the weaker vessel.

So should husbands live with their wives in an extra-understanding way, knowing the unique weightiness of such a noble mantle placed on such a delicate frame? Yes. 100%. His strength should only make her stronger, not weaker.

But ladies, let's not despise our load. He who called you to bear it will strengthen, support, and sustain you. And He does so with such gentleness and grace as you walk in utter unworthy dependance on Him. He made you for whatever task He has called you to. And He who called you is faithful.