"May I touch you"
"Can I take this off"
"Can I kiss you"
"You ready?"
"Let me know if anything doesn't feel good & we'll stop okay?"
"Can you breathe? Okay good"
"Too hard?"
"Want me to loosen it a little?"
Checking in with your sub is both hot and necessary.
If you do not believe in self, it will be extremely difficult to get others to believe in you. Be authentically you. The possibilities of life could be expanded exponentially.