“I’m looking at them now and it’s just flat - the manager looks flat and CLUELESS!” 😬
🗣️ “I can’t lie, I’m worried for next season. I’m worried for the season after next season.”
Surely Liverpool cannot persist with Arne Slot.
The higher you vibe, the harder it is to return to the familiar lower-vibrational ways. You stop seeking attention and validation. You stop people-pleasing. You stop agreeing to keep the peace. You stop shrinking to fit in. You stop suppressing your truth. You stop playing small.
Dating people with narcissistic tendencies is one of the leading cause of almost every health issue we see.
Few people connect health issues to relationships.
But the connection is research based:
An immature partner views conflict as a sign the relationship isn't working. A mature partner views conflict as an opportunity to meet each other needs even when it's hard.
One of the cruelest and most insidious layers of narcissistic abuse is the weaponization of your trauma response as proof of your “instability,” rather than as evidence of what was done to you.
When you experience severe trauma from prolonged psychological or narcissistic abuse—when it leads to CPTSD, a mental collapse, a nervous breakdown, or even hospitalization—your abusers will use that.
They will try to freeze you in that state, forever.
They will point to your trauma response and say, “See? That’s who they are.” Not what happened to you—but you. As if the very injuries they inflicted prove you were broken all along. They won’t offer compassion or understanding. They won’t take responsibility. Instead, they’ll exploit it as a reason to discredit anything you say from now on.
To them, your pain is useful. Your collapse is ammunition to use against you.
And that’s what makes recovery so hard. Because not only do we have to heal from the abuse—we have to push back against the story they’re still trying to write about us. They want to make your trauma your identity, so they can walk away clean.
But you are not their story.
You are not your trauma.
Your trauma defines what they did to you, and that’s what they’re terrified of people figuring out.
People don’t want advice. They’re desperate to be heard by a calm person who doesn’t try to fix it. They already know what they’re supposed to do— they just want you to listen.