I’ve questioned God about a lot of things over the past few months. But the most rebellious moment was about sex.
One afternoon, reading 1 Thessalonians 4, “Avoid sexual immorality; learn to control your own body in holiness and honor”… It was the last straw for me and I finally admitted something I’d never dared say: this feels intrusive. Why does God care THIS much? It felt like holy micromanagement. Like God couldn’t let humans just… be human.
But as usual, I sat with it, and things became clearer. If you follow Scripture, and biology, God’s concern for the body isn’t intrusion. It’s design and mercy.
Here’s what I mean.
We often picture God as a moral hall monitor peeking into bedrooms. But what if that’s the wrong picture entirely? What if He isn’t an intruder… but the INVENTOR?
If God created us, then He created sex. He engineered hormones, wired pleasure, shaped bodies to experience intimacy, and anchored reproduction to delight. He didn’t have to. He could have made humans reproduce like trees or insects, functional, emotionless, detached. But He didn’t. He wove joy into the very act that creates life. That alone is theological insight: pleasure isn’t a glitch in the system. It’s a deliberate feature in the blueprint of Eden.
So God’s involvement in sex isn’t nosiness. It’s responsibility.
Not all creators carry the same burden of care. If you design aircraft or medicine, you owe the world warnings, guardrails, recalls. The more powerful the invention, the more we expect the inventor to stay involved. That level of power requires stewardship. Sex lives in that category.
Sex is one of the most potent forces in human existence. It creates children, bonds souls, rewires memory, shapes societies. When something can alter destinies like that, indifference is not kindness. Indifference is cruelty.
So if a loving God engineered something that powerful, of course He’d define its context. Of course He’d tell us where it flourishes and where it destroys. In my opinion, that is not control, that is care.
And if anyone thinks that sounds dramatic, please look around.
Sex carries what economists call “externalities”, costs society pays when individuals use powerful things carelessly. Father absence when sex is detached from commitment. The objectification industry feeding exploitation. Women carrying the long-term cost of men’s short-term appetites. Children inheriting instability. Society pretending fracture is freedom.
Consent matters deeply, but consent is the floor, not the ceiling. Consent answers, “Is this allowed?” COVENANT answers, “Who bears the cost? Who carries the consequence? Who protects the vulnerable?”
Covenant is the technology God gave us to internalize the externalities of sex, to bind love to responsibility, desire to devotion, pleasure to permanence. That’s not repression. It’s justice. It’s what love does when it matures past appetite.
God’s sexual ethic isn’t about control. It’s about design, responsibility, and mercy. He isn’t trying to steal our joy. He’s insisting that joy is safe. He’s insisting love has architecture. He’s insisting we treat glory like glory.
Once I saw that, God stopped looking invasive. He looked profoundly responsible.
someone said "if you don't let people experience the consequences of their actions towards u, you will remain a safe place for their worst behavior" and I couldn't agree more
Btw "systemic racism" doesn't mean "lots of racists in the system". It means that even if there were *zero* "racists" present, the system would still disproportionately harm people of certain races. It's baffling that lots of educated folks don't understand this concept.
65 FREE SURGERIES FOR 65 CHILDREN
Yesterday, I attended the final follow-up clinic and appreciation programme at Mother Mary Hospital, Isolo, Lagos, following the successful completion of 65 free surgeries for children to mark my 65th birthday.
I am deeply grateful to God Almighty for guiding the medical team throughout the process and for granting all 65 children safe and successful surgeries.
The surgeries, led by Dr Folaseye Adebayo and her dedicated team, included adenotonsillectomy. This procedure removes enlarged or chronically infected tonsils and adenoids, which can cause breathing difficulties, recurrent infections, and sleep-related problems in children.
What made the occasion particularly touching was listening to parents share their testimonies and hearing how these procedures have improved their children’s health and quality of life.
My profound appreciation goes to @DrFolaseye Adebayo and her entire team, the hospital management, the parents, and everyone who contributed to making this initiative possible.
For me, birthdays are not merely occasions for celebration. They are opportunities to give back, touch lives, and make a meaningful difference in the lives of others.
I thank God for the privilege of being part of this initiative and, most importantly, for the gift of 65 healthy and hopeful children.
May God continue to bless all those who dedicate their lives to saving and improving the lives of others.
A New Nigeria is POssible. -PO
your relationship with yourself cannot be built entirely around improvement. at some point, you have to become someone you are allowed to enjoy being. you get to be proud of who you are. present tense
In the last 3 months, I have bought at least 4 fake products of everyday household necessities, not from roadside stalls, but from supermarkets. That should worry all of us.
This isn't only a supermarket problem, it happens in pharmacies, open markets, and online too, they all have an obligation to sell genuine products and goods.
It is a criminal offence to sell fake products in Nigeria.
So wherever you bought it, if you've recently bought a fake or substandard product, please don't let it slide. Do not leave it to God.
You can directly report to NAFDAC and FCCPC, or other relevant agencies.
If you cannot report it yourself, Lawyers for Civil Liberties (LACIVLER Development FOUNDATION) will submit such petition on your behalf. Fill the below:
https://t.co/aiVzUGR1iT
The older I get, the more I realize that anxiety comes from trying to live in two places at once. Replaying yesterday. Rehearsing tomorrow. All while trying to live right now. It's exhausting. Come back to the present. Handle the two feet right in front of you. You don't need to fix your whole life today. You need to take the next right step. Then another. That's the recipe.
Nothing is out of your league or too good for you. read that again!!!! The dreams, the life, the opportunities, the love, the rooms you keep admiring from afar. You are allowed to have them too. You deserve the world.