Hope I explain this right, but I wish more people would recognise you don't have to outwardly hate gay people to have homophobic thoughts like hating/ostracising gay people is so ingrained in our current society and it's not always so clear cut.
Like if your statement begins with "I don't hate gay ppl but.." then you are most likely already doing something wrong, man. And I know when other gay people try to speak up about that kinda stuff people will always double down/get defensive. It's just difficult and tiring.
i unironically love the kinds of ppl who are insanely focused and crazy about one fictional character. like, you go girl be postman pat's #1 fan u got it